My husband of 7 years recently walked out on my daughter and I. He is now the most insensitive, selfish, uncaring person on the planet as far as I am concerned, and now I don't even feel like I know him, or ever did, for that matter!!!
Please help, it is so confusing...
2007-03-07 14:40:38 · 16 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u are just now seeing the real him, and who he always was. we can live with someone forever but never really know what they are thinking. usually when a man has a new woman he will behave like this towards his family. its the influence of the new woman in his life that is doing this. he didn't just turn into this, u just didn't see it coming. he has made up his mind about her, and no longer wants to be with u anymore, this is how they act, because if they showed u kindness maybe they wouldn't be able to leave and treat u so bad. they don't just act uncaring they feel uncaring, as they are doing uncaring things. people do change, bad things do happen, but there is always a way out of it, we just have to find it. he is cheating on u, and with the other woman now, and theres no way to stop it, just has to run its course.
2007-03-08 00:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most certainly feels the same about you - he never knew you, and that you are the biggest uncaring, insensitive, selfish asshole on the planet.
Okay now that we've got the pleasantries out of the way,why not stop name-calling and get to the root of the problem?
Whatever it is, the both of you are responsible, most likely. Once you can admit that and live that, you have a chance at understanding why this and any other relationship you are in is doomed to failure.
2007-03-07 22:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is such a shame contributors jump on the divorce and support court band wagon at the first sign of marital trouble. I am not trying to down play the poor behavior of your husband. Sounds like this is a first time for something big like this. Get yourself "good" counseling. Be careful what "Friends" may tell you. You and your daughter have allot at stake. If your husband cares about his family he will make some reconciliation if you leave the conditions open for it. If he comes back do not rest thinking it will be OK. Both of you should see a marriage counselor to help see things clearly.If you cant afford one Churches can be the next best thing.
2007-03-07 23:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are not good at expressing their emotions so easy. So they do it in silent and eventually you hear a bout it....only by then it's much to late. It's called being a selfish coward. You know they expect that most women should be mind readers.
So you might be right, you probably never really knew him as much as you thought. I mean I'm married and I still feel like their is that little bit of NOT KNOWING him thing going on.
I'm so sorry for you, and all I can say is be strong, for your daughter.
2007-03-07 22:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not know why they do this. Some women do this as well and it is not always just the man. I think you should ask him why he walked out on you and your daughter and why he does not want you and the marriage anymore. He just may tell you why. If it were me i would find out why he left me and if he wanted the marriage anymore or not. If he wanted out i would let him go and file for divorce and if he wanted the marriage i would make him go to marriage counseling with me. This is how i would deal with it if it were me. He could also have been cheating and having an affair on you and he could be leaving you for someone else. If this is the case get a good lawyer and file for divorce asap!
2007-03-07 22:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, things are going to get better from here and when you get some perspective, you'll realise that you were meant for better things and that the future is now wide open.
You can be whoever you always wanted to be. There was a cruel and unnecessary remark posted about you needing to take the blame etc. I don't think that's true. If he walked out on you, then I would just try to move on and forget about a man who walks out on his wife and kid
I wish you the best of luck
2007-03-07 22:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was probably that way before he left, just not as bad and you didn't notice it because you cared for him. It is hard to say without knowing why he left in the first place. From the sounds of it, he left with no warning, no sign that there was trouble. If this is the case he may have another woman and he is treating you that way to prove to her that she is more important.
2007-03-07 22:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge on the other woman is to let her keep him.
I don't think that he would just leave if he didn't have somewhere to go, if you know what I mean.
Divorce him, nail his sorry butt for child support, and move on with your life when you're done crying over his lame a**.
Make sure that he also knows that your house doesn't have a revolving door. He made the choice to leave, and HE IS GONE.
2007-03-07 22:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably because their wives used to be caring, affectionate, and kind individuals. It's not always the husband, it's the wife too. Men just have a bad rap, but now ladies, it's coming back to bite you. It sounds like you don't care and you aren't taking any blame for him walking out or for any of your marriage problems. Problems can't be fixed with one person taking the blame. You did your part too.
2007-03-07 22:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He always was an ****** you just fell for the act. Now you need to stand up and let him go Take him to court for child support and consider that he did you a favor.
2007-03-07 22:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋