How do you deal with mood swings and bad mood of your partner?

Question

My wife, in my case.

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Answer 1

When she is not in one of those moods, approach her and ask her what is going on. Ask her what is causing it, and if you can help. And if this doesn't do the trick, I'd just leave. Giver her space, and don't be around. If she is moody, it isn't fair to you to have to deal with it (especially if you've already made effort to help her).

Answer 2

Don't know how to deal with them..but here is a list of things that may cause it, Our all time favorite....PMS, then there is depression, alcohol allergies, reaction to medication, and illegal drugs.

Just try to be patient, while you try to figure out what the problem is....more than likely she cannot tell you why she is having the mood swings, but if she does not have a problem with drugs and alcohol, then I am betting on Depression.....that is unless the mood swings are only once a month...then it is PMS. You will need to find a calm day, to talk to her about it, and getting her help, and medication....but until then, do you think that she would be willing to go walking everyday with you, or do some form of exercise. The reason I ask is because exercise releases serotonin in the brain with helps with depression. I hope that your wife does want some help, depression is not fun, but thank goodness there are medications that will help.

Best of luck to you and your wife

Answer 3

No one likes a moody spouse or one in a bad mood! I think that our moods are our choices. 99.9% of the time I am in a good mood. Why? Because I would rather be pleasant than make myself miserable with all of the day's worries, and give my husband my attitude. It's terrible. Some lady hit my car a couple of days ago, and I could have gone off on her, but what's the point? I chose to be pleasant and be in a good mood because it is contagious. She felt bad, I knew it, why would I want to make it worse?
Just sit down and tell your wife that it is really wearing on a person when they are moody or in a bad mood. It's not something you want to come home to. Be nice about it, but be firm in telling her that it is taking a toll on you, and your marriage. Good luck!

Answer 4

1) If she gets hormonal, check the calendar. You can typically figure out when it's coming and prepare (i.e. brace) yourself.

2) Don't get caught in the trap of responding in kind to any nasty comments. I've tried that, you can't keep up (she will always be better at it than you), and it only makes it worse.

3) Talk to her afterwards openly about it, so that you can talk to her openly about it "during" the mood the next time, referencing the unmoody conversation. Not that it will snap her out of it completely, but she will be a little more objective and maybe recognize that she needs to check herself.

4) Be patient during and afterwards remind her how sweet you were and that she "owes" you - and make sure she pays up!

Answer 5

Depends on why shes having the mood swings and how bad she gets.

My first thought is to run a nice scented bath for her with candles. After bath rub her feet with lotion and when she drifts off to sleep let her sleep. Buy her chocolate, favorite wine whatever.

If shes degrading to you then go out yourself or just give her her space. Good luck. I will say that if you think its not fun being around someone thats moody imagine what its like being the one thats so unhappy for reasons that she cant control. ( Im assuming its hormonal)

Take care.

Answer 6

I'll give it to you from both sides... mine and my husband's.
I'm bipolar, so thankfully I married a wonderfully patient man. Though I don't always appreciate his tactics, they usually turn out to help in the end!!! He tends to push me, to realize what the underlying problem is and to talk it out. I get frustrated during the process, and usually pout or sulk, but end up thanking him afterwards, because he made me think. He also makes me laugh. Acts so silly (and sometimes stupid) until I smile, without giving up. Somehow, he seems to sense which approach to take when, and rarely misjudges.
As for me, (I married a VERY moody man) - wow, I hope he doesn't read this, I don't wanna give away my secret!!! I ask him questions. Not related to his mood or whatever the problem is. When he's in a bad mood, he "tinkers"... starts taking stuff apart and fixing stuff. I ask questions about what he's doing, allowing his focus to shift to something other than what's bothering him, allowing him to feel knowledgeable (let's face it, he knows a LOT more than me about LCD screens and computers and electronics), and maybe even showing him in a way that I look up to him, that I value him, that I turn to him for answers. If that fails, I go read a book and let him work it out in his head.
He likes to help me through my moods, but doesn't like to talk through his... all depends on the person's personality.
GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

Could she be Bi-polar. If so there is help for her as long as she takes medication. On the other hand, some people just have a difficult personality.
Therapy helped my husband like you wouldn't believe.
We were so opposite, and he would not change. He could not see that he was no fun to live with like he was, and I was about to throw in the towel. When he realized I was about out of here, he got himself into therapy, and today he is the most wonderful husband in this world. So sweet and loving.I could not ask for anything more and I love my husband to death for the effort and the changes he made.
We have 5 grown happily married children and I am looking forward to growing older with my born again husband.~~~~~
Good luck to you and your wife.
I pray her personality will become one that you will one day brag about.~~~~It can happen,she has to want to change.
Everyone looks so good when they have a happy joyful spirit.
Smiling is contagious, do a lot of it ! It becomes a habit.~~Jill

Answer 8

Just let her have some space to work out her mood.. women are complex creatures we feel very deeply and hurt very deeply. If you just give her some time she will come around.

Answer 9

consume healthful, exercising, and so on. once you're waiting, pass see a psychiatrist. they're the MDs who focus on temper sickness meds, and are plenty extra apt to get you attached with the the main suitable option drugs. i do no longer bounce to recommending meds, yet what you describe sounds very very such as a organic and organic concern.

Answer 10

expect them. here we go again! women been having periods and hormonal swings forever and ever and ever and it how we keep men from being complete jerks every day.
ask your partner how she would like you to 'deal' with her mood swings...and she should also warn you she's in a particularly bad mood. peace