Can people be too happy? My fiance and i have a wonderful relationship. I am completely in love with him as he is with me. We are expecting our first child in 5.5wks and finances have fallen into place so thats enabled me to take off a year (initially) to raise our child without any financial strain, after which i can decide if i want to go back to work. We are well prepared for this child and its just a waiting game at the moment. Our lives seem to be going so well and be filled with so much happiness at the moment and i'm worried that things are going to come crashing down around us. And since we are so happy at the moment i have this feeling of something going REALLY wrong - and the worst case scenario would be something wrong with this baby.
Am i worrying too much? Can you just be happy without something terrible happening to "balance things out"?
2007-03-07 13:20:50 · 22 answers · asked by Smiley One 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like typical pre-birth/child jitters, honey. In 5 weeks or less your life is going to change forever - once a mommy, always a mommy. It's natural to feel some anxiety. But no, I don't think there is some kind of universal scale that balances itself out when tipped in one direction or the other. If you are expecting for something "bad" to happen then you will subconciously start looking for the bad, or, even sabotage yourself. This is called a "self-fulfilling" prophecy. You think something is going to happen so strongly that you make it happen that way, even if you don't realize it. Just enjoy the life you have and all the good things that are happening for you. Worrying changes nothing - if something is going to happen, it will - whether you are worrying about it or not. Your baby doesn't need it's mommy stressed out. You'll be stressed enough when the little angel gets here so enjoy these last few (quiet) weeks. Prayers and best wishes!!
2007-03-07 13:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, STOP IT! STOP WORRYING! No, you can never be too happy!! What the hell else are we supposed to feel whilst here on earth? Would you prefer to feel really miserable and STILL worry that something dreadful will happen? Get up every day of your life and be thankful! You're on earth to be happy, very happy, forever and a day, and not to think you must be too happy so something dreadful is going to happen!
All I can tell you is that if you keep thinking the way you are then YES, something dreadful will happen because you're waiting for it and actually cause it to happen! So knock it off, you're happy and everyone in this world should be so lucky! And if something does happen to be wrong with this baby, guess what? You, like every other parent(s) before you, will still love it with all your heart and you'll learn how to deal and cope and once again, you'll be happy.
You seem to be the sort of person\people who can find happiness in life whatever it is you face, and for that, you are truly blessed. (or others might say lucky)
Stop worrying and enjoy every happy day you have! You can not do anything about the past nor can you predict the future so stop dwelling on the things you can NOT do and enjoy what you have!
Now stop asking this question and be happy!!!
2007-03-07 13:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by raquelha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly that happy, and are worried about things "balancing" out, pay your happiness forward. What I mean is find some way to share your good fortune in life with those who might not be as fortunate. Volunteer somewhere and make a difference in someone else's life. Volunteer where the experience might help you with your newborn child. At a daycare, or cub scouts, or girl scouts. This is to me the best "thank you" you can give for a wonderful life.
2007-03-07 13:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I continually say Merry Christmas and happy New 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and if somebody says to me happy trip trips I in basic terms smile at them and say thank you and that i wish you have an somewhat Merry Christmas and happy New 3 hundred and sixty 5 days too!
2016-09-30 08:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are definitley wondering too much . To me there is not such thing as being TOO happy. I would much rather be happy happy happy then way too sad sad sad. Hold on to and treasure what you have with this wonderful man and I wish you the best with him and with your life and future as well. Count your blessings as they are rare. I sure hope that nothing goes really wrong here.
2007-03-07 14:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When things seem to be too good, it can tend to be scarey that something bad is gonna happen. That's quite understandable.
For now, just take it all in stride and enjoy every minute....And the fact that you prepared so well. Usually folks arent quite that thorough. You have many sleepless nites ahead of you. Enjoy your peace while you have it now!
Congrats! and Best Wishes!
2007-03-07 13:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how u feel. u are waiting for the axe to fall. sometimes we feel like life hates for someone to be happy. while u can certainly expect life to throw u some challanges, there is no reason for u to feel like something disasterous will happen. keep a positive attitude. it has been shown to actually help to keep negative things from happening. personally, i am a christian, so i believe in devine help and intervention. additionally, my beliefs include a real power over how my life unfolds. best wishes to you and your baby. this is a happy time in your life. it is very common to have the fears that u are experiencing. put your mind at ease!
2007-03-07 13:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be too happy. However, you can worry so much that you ruin what you have to be happy about. You ruin it for yourself AND your fiance. Be thankful. It's not just a baby you have to look forward to, it is each and every one of these moments leading up to it. They are what your beautiful memories will be made of.
2007-03-07 14:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds almost like you think you don't deserve to be so happy.
Enjoy it. Live it while it is happening. Worrying about what "might" happen is just not a very good idea -- it actually makes you a lot less happy than you could be, I would imagine (gosh -- all that worrying!)
Live your life to the fullest while it is still so good.
2007-03-07 13:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so happy, how is it that you are worrying? You are living in the moment...write about it in a journal and draw on it when those hard times come along.
2007-03-07 13:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋