i have a gay brother who hasnt spoken to me in nearly 3 years the excuse he has given for not wanting to see me is rather silly and a long time ago. I have 2 kids now that he has never met and he is such a great uncle to my nice's. I dont care if he was black,white,gay or bi it doesnt faze me at all ive tryed emailing him saying im sorry for the past what else can i do to have my brother back in my life i love him so much?
2007-03-07 13:19:32 · 10 answers · asked by Kenny K 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
3 years is nothing if you insulted him seriously,it depends on what issues involve. Family problems is harder to deal than friends coz it's sensitive matters. If i were you,you must see him in person and confront the issue and chances are you might get along well again. Good luck!
2007-03-07 14:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is your brother who has to work through his own issues.
If you have reached out to him (and depending on how you approached the subject) and he still refuses to talk to you or hear what you have to say, My guess would be he has some personal feelings he can't let go of.
What caused the rift in the past?
Did you two have a good relationship at any time?
I can't make a judgment call on your brother because I don't know either of you. But you may want to talk to your parents or a relative that talks to the both of you, a sister or a cousin maybe. See if they can mediate some kind of meeting or something between the two of you.
Some times distance and time fixes problems, My brother and I were rivals for years, I have only seen him maybe 3 times in 2 years and only recently have we really started to get along and we have started to appreciate each other more.
anyhow, Best of luck.
2007-03-07 21:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Stone K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The excuse that your brother has given you for not wanting to see you may not seem silly to him and may still be fresh in his mind.
By you saying that you have emailed him that you are sorry suggests that you feel that you have done something wrong to feel sorry about, and you should acknowledge this to your brother in person in order for you to rebuild your relationship with him.
Your brother may still be hurt by whatever you have done to feel sorry about, and emailing him and saying that you are sorry is not the same as talking to him in person. You say that you love him so much, but he may not realize this unless you have told him this face to face.
Life is short; call your brother and arrange a meeting, if he is unwilling drive to his home. Resolve your differences now to make both of your lives better by reconnecting and rebuilding your relationship.
2007-03-07 21:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the phone and call him. Invite him to dinner. If you know he's going to be at your parent's house show up and talk to him. The longer it goes on the more difficult it will be to open up the lines of communication. I'm wondering if there wasn't some kind of falling out because it's unusual for people not to talk to an immediate family for so long for no reason. If so you really need to reach out and try to resolve it. Go through other family members like your mom and other siblings and have them talk to him.
2007-03-08 02:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, when there is some-1 that you love for reals, keep on it, dont give up and tell him how much YOU love him, does not matter if he is GAY or anything else, trust me, if it comes from the bottom of you heart we will notice.... But the magic phrase is " I LOVE YOU".
PS: But if he doesnt want to talk to you, it is not for a silly reason , migth be something bigger than that!
2007-03-07 22:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Hey Guyz! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being persistent. Send B-day cards and holiday pics, and keep telling him that you miss him. Something happened 3 years ago that he thinks was a good reason to cut ties with his brother-- you still think it was silly. It might be time to look at that. It might have been more silly to you than it was to him. Best of luck.
2007-03-07 21:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love for him can melt the ice, I am sure he will talk to you again. Spring break is on the corner, make a good excuse to visit him with the kids.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 21:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by @!# 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. As someone else said tell him exactly what you have said to us.
2007-03-07 21:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do much if he doesn't respond...sorry
2007-03-07 22:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what you said to us.
2007-03-07 21:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋