For those who knows first or second hand: How do I know if I'm becoming gay?

Question

I am a 23 year old male, who since graduating from college entered a severe depression w/ an obsessive anxiety disorder. In the past, I have always felt very secure with my sexuality, not at all homophobic, and only was attracted to girls.. However for the past months, I've gotten progressively more homophobic.. Then I started to question my sexuality, because I am kinda attracted to a straight male co-worker.. Leading up to this, masturbation got progressively more difficult, and I no longer feel that instant desire to mentally fantasize about attractive girls.. Now I test myself obsessively looking at men and women, with a slight inclination towards men (could be the anxiety).. I tried masturbating to men, and I couldn't get erect.. I can still get off to women, but not as effortlessly as it used to be.. Despite this all, the idea of gay sex is not at all appealing to me at all. Is this the transition of latent homosexuality or does it sound like my anxiety is just ******* with me?

Furthermore, the depression and anxiety had to do with entering the real world from college and not being able to adequately cope with the transition... After a while, this question has become the focus of my anxiety... the constant questioning and self-assessing which lasts all day long..

Answer 1

It could just be a lot of stress. Can you accept the possibility that you may be bicurious? Maybe you just wonder what it would be like to be with another man? A lot of young adults experiment to determine their true sexuality. It doesn't sound like you're gay to me but possibly just curious. But just for the record, you don't become gay... you either are or you aren't. Good luck.

Answer 2

OMG relax, relax, relax....

Take the night off go get hammed and enjoy yourself.
If you wake up in the morning with a guy in your bed then that's when you know that you are gay.. Good-Luck