can someone tell me what is considered child abuse plz????

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can someone please tell me what is considered child abuse plz?


my ex is tellin my sons he has every right to grab them and smack them around its called discipline ..i was under the impression you have no right at all to hit your child ...

now this is what brought this on they were suppose to go to their dads for their wednesday nite visit they left at 550 to go to their dads they called me at 630 and told me their is nobody here i said write him a note that you were there ..so they did and they came back home well i said to them you were there he wasnt and there was no note ..so my 17 yr and and my 13 yr old went with friends my 15 yr old stayed here .

..there dad calls at 657 and says im home now i had to work overtime and i was told by his second wife they have no over time.how true that was im not sure but anyway my ex came to my door he asked where the kids were my 15 yr old is like mom tell him im not here i said justin i cant i could probably get in trouble for that

so i went to the door their dad is like where are they i said j is here our other sons went to the store with some friends he said do they have your cell i said yes he told j to call it so he did and said no answer but my phone doesnt get good reception in stores .so i kept calling them i got a hold of them and told them they needed to get to their dads and our 13 yr old son called me and said mom what if he hurts one of us again i said then walk out he said my dad said he has every right to grab us and hit us.he grabbed my sons before and they are tired of it i reported the last time to docs and everything and nothing was done....


when our sons go for a visit they tell me sunday when they get home they only have one meal the whole weekend..and they make my 17 yr and 13 yr old watch a handicapped women while they are gone that is my exs new gf's job and responsibility...can someone that knows the law and custody issues plz tell me what i can do plz.....i cant stand this anymore

i have witnesses to what he did to my 13 yr old ..also he calls my 17 yr old who struggles in school whom has add a f'ing retard and so did his gf our other sons told me about it after their visit.my 17 yr old has add and has always struggled in school and gives up all the time ..here i am email teachers all the time and the guidance counslers to ask about him and what i can do to help him ....his dad always blames me for everything.

my 17 yr old sits here and tells me he cant wait to be 18 so he doesnt have to see him no more he said mom he ignores me when i am there he acts like i dont exist ..dad doesnt pay no attention to us.only his gf's kids and my half brother and half sister from his second marriage..he said i am so sick of all this custody case crap ....did you know our sons told me on thanksgiving they forgot to call my 17 yr old to the dinner table .they remember when everyone was eating..sad isnt it..this is all because i finally sued him for cs.i had our sons since 96

to answer one of the post yes he was abusive to me when i was married to him .


ok i have a on going custody case right now can i still get cps involved..

the reason he grabbed his son is he called his son a faker after my son badly sprained his ankle ..one day after physical therapy that i took him to the pt said use your ankle normally again so my son was walking and running on it and all his dad seen him and called him a faker my son got upset and came over to me and said i am sick of my dad callin me a faker well our 13 yr old son walked away from his dad upset and his dad was screaming get back her and our 13 yr old son just walked over to me then my ex got out of the truck but him up against the garage and had his elbow in his throat i didnt see what happened i thought he was just yelling at him infront of witnesses and all his brothers i didnt know he had his elbow in his throat.till my ex walked away from him .then i took him in the house..called the gf and told her

what had happened and she said he has every right to touch him i said no he doesnt you tell him he is to never touch our kids again ..i told her i was taking him in to get checked .she said go ahead and you tell them what happened i said i will.i told the family doctors and i called women in crisis and the guidance counslers. my doctors office told me they cant be involved he said for my son to write him a letter.now im fighting to keep my sons that i have raised for 10yrs all i got was 50 awk in cs for four boys..i did and still do everything for my sons. i really think they should change the law that the father cant sue for custody when the mother sues for cs when she is and has been primary caretaker since 96 well he walked out in 96 it was legal in 97

i never neglected my sons nor hit them nor beat them.i have been here for them 24/7

Answer 1

it depends on things. of the boys did something wrong then they deserve to get spanked or yelled at but not grabbed and smacked.if they didn't do anything wrong and he does this every time then yes it is child abuse. call cps on him and get custody over them.

Answer 2

Child abuse can take many forms but basically it is the sexual, physical or psychological abuse of a child. No one has the right to hit a child is such a manner that they leave a bruise, mark or laceration, or if the child suffers trauma from such action. If what you say is true, then you need to call the police and report this. Generally, in most jurisdiction, once a child reaches the age of 16 years, younger in some jurisdiction, then they are not obligated to go with the other parent for visitations. If the child is living with the abusive parent, then they have the right to file for a change of custody. Don't let this pass!

Answer 3

Ok, by all means get the police involved. No parent or adult has any right to grab and hit a child for any reason nowadays. Nothing was done before probably because there wasnt enough evidence to go on. You can also petition the courts for an emergency custody hearing to provoke dads visitation rights with the excuse that the visits are detrimental to the kids safety and well being and the visits are endangering their lives. Get a protective restraining order against him for you and the kids til the courts decide. Document everything you have and any witnesses you have as you can bet hes going to challenge you in court and evidence speaks for itself. Also those kids should never evr be left alone to watch another adult under any circumstances. It sounds to me that dad isnt responsible enough to be around those kids and is very abusive when out of control. But by all means contact the authorities immediately before its too lateand charge him with everything you can. Let the courts sort it all out. Also the kids are old enough to refuse visits with Dad if they so choose. Good luck ******* If you should get this, I got your reply to me but got a "failure notice" when I replied to you so my email is [e-mail] and please send me your question thru that thanks , Art ******

Answer 4

If you're feeling weird, then something untoward is probably going on. To what extent, we may never know. But, would you be able to live with yourself if something were going on and you had done nothing about it?

Call your local child services or department of social services (DSS) organization and run the situation by them. They are professionals who are formally equipped to investigate these exact kinds of situations. So, leave it up the professionals and stop taking on the responsibility of guessing on your own.

If (hopefully) nothing abusive is occurring, then they will be able to determine that. And, you will have done everything that you, as a mother, are expected to do.

Good luck.

Answer 5

uhm I think not. Grabbin and smacking around is not only child abuse but degrading. Spanking on the bottom when they do something against your rules and/or may be immoral is fine. But to be smacked around or grabbed isnt right at all. As a parent he should have enough decentcy to know not to hit his own kids out of LOVE. I say you tell him to back off and hands off or it can and could get legal not jusr from you but anyone who witnessed it.

Good luck with that.

Answer 6

Discipline is teaching someone to follow the rules and work hard to achieve a goal. Accomplished musicians are disciplined. Professional athletes are disciplined. Honor students are disciplined. Discipline and punishment are not the same thing.

Punishment typically refers to negative consequences of poorly chosen actions.

Your ex's actions are definitely not discipline and I severely doubt they meet even the loosest legal definition of punishment. They are emotionally-based outbursts similar to a two-year-old having a temper tantrum. Talk to DHS and the police. They can force him into counseling.

Answer 7

none has a right to put their hand on their chrilden to me what he is doing is child abuse that is not disclipe that is abuse and u need to file a report agaist him for child abuse. u are their mother and u have to keep them self u need to call child protive services and report him. then i would call the cops and then take them to the doctors. was your ex ever abusive towards u?u need to get your kids away from this man .

Answer 8

All those kids are old enough to stand up in court and say what's going on and who they want to live with as well as if they still want to see their Dad. I am not sure if they are willing to do so but they are legally able too.

Answer 9

in some states it is only child abuse if you leave a mark

Answer 10

He seems kind of weird for doing that. He needs to lighten up.