What do you do when your friend has to much self pity?

Question

i hang out with these two girls and we are really good friends. but one of them is feeling like she is disliked always and her life sucks. her life doesn't suck, it's not perfect but nobodys is. she is always moping around. she says she has problems with her family and they alway yell at her and stuff,(happens to everybody) and then becasue of all of her self pity she is trying to make me and my other friend have a lot of pity on her and she doesn't need pity. no one needs pity. and it really pisses us off because we are all happy and whatever and then we look at her and its like FEEL BAD FOR ME!!! and we are just like AHHHHHHH!!

Answer 1

Do what feels right, stop making it easy on her to complain about her life. If she wants to keep throwing the same problem at her, give her advice, tell her want she should do, and if she doesn't do it she has no right to ask for pity or your sympathy. Stand strong because it usually due to a family of individuals with weak wills to create an individual like that. She is use to people ether being completely controling in here life or extremely powerless, don't be ether and she might start to feel better about who she is and were she is at.