high school problem...?

Question

I used to hang out with this girl Toria. I thought she was cool. Well turns out- Toria changed since 9th grade. I only saw her at lunch. I didnt know no one else, so I started sitting with her. It was cool at first, but then toria started to get weird. Whenever I would talk to her she would make up stories about how she used to live in New York (when i already knew she didnt) and how she would get into fights, and she got raped-- and all these outrageous stories. I seriously thought something was wrong with her, because she would lie to me in my face, and i would know she was lying. I just went along with her. I got tired of her stupid stories and so I said that I didnt have the same lunch anymore. Shes concieted, she lies, and shes a bad friend. Yet she has the hottest boyfriend-- and I cant even set foot in the cafeteria. Who am i gonna eat with? i have to eat lunch in the bathroom now!!! Help? I dont want to be her friend anymore (for sure)and i want to eat lunch. With who??

Answer 1

Don't eat alone! You're in high school!It can be some of the best times of your life, but you have to make it that way! Talk to a classmate or even (as hard as it may seem) introduce yourself to someone you have never even seen before! She seems like a horrible person, and to be honest she doesn't deserve you as a friend. Don't give her the satisfaction of thinking that you need her, because you don't. Good luck!

Answer 2

It sounds like your friend has real attention issues.

Anyway, try making friends in your classes first. Maybe with the person you sit beside or someone else you like. Then try to work out the lunch issues. Or if someone in the cafeteria is sitting alone and looks nice enough, ask if you can sit there and try to strike up a conversation.

I know its hard, but sometimes you have to be the one to make the first move in a new friendship.

But, if you just cant do it yet and need to build your confidence try to make other plans for lunch. Maybe have a parent or sibling come by and take you home or out for lunch until you have made more friends and have plans for the cafeteria.

Just remember that highschool is only 4 years and you will make more friends as the years go on. Dont worry! There will always be people there to help you out.

Answer 3

first of all, eating in the bathroom is gross. and as for the toria girl, do you really want to avoid her enough to lie to her about having a different lunch when her lying is what set you off in the first place? just go sit with some other kids that you know, even if you have to go into the cafeteria. you're not helping yourself at all by avoiding other people. part of high school is making frriends. don't worry, you can find other friends that won't lie to you.

Answer 4

You can not eat on campus on the grass. Outside. Do not let anyone make you feel like that especially telling me about Toria. She does not deserve you if she did not like you she did not have to lie and make up outrageous stories. Be your sweet self eat in the cafeteria if you like take something of interest with you. Do volunteer work in the offices, help teachers eat in the classroom. Wait to you go to college. Some of these girls act like woman. Beware save yourself--Cover it too!

Answer 5

hey
Ur friend does semm to be having some problems, its probably due to hs pressure, where she needs to lie to get attention because maybe she doesnt have enough self confidence or self esteem. Its probably a face that will pass or maybe shell stay like that forever cause it is said that hs makes u find out who u really are. i dont see why u have to summit urself to eating lunch in the bathroom, find urself a new group of friends be outgoing and get new friends trust me this is the best time to do so and u wont regreted, eat lunch with ur new crew and let ur friend be who shes trying to be and trust me someday u wont even remember who she was, maybe a little hello here and there but ull be too distracted. make the best of hs it is seriously the best time of ur life. until college lol

Answer 6

Where i come from who you eat lunch with doesnt matter as long as your stomach is full.In your case you seam shallow and wanna be with someone.No offense just saying what i think.Hope your not like that.Anyway I eat with no one and if anyone wants to join me then sure. it will suprise you what kind of sexy looking people will aproch you to have lunch with you or even may offer to buy lunch the next time for you

Answer 7

I'M SORRY FOR YOUR PROBLEM HERE IS A POSSIBLE SOLUTION: IF YOU ARE SURE YOU DO NT WANT TO BE HER FRIEND ANYMORE THEN DO NT BUT YOU CANT HIDE IN THE BATHROOM THE REST OF THE SCHOOL YEAR SO GO TO THE LUNCHROOM AND FIND A TABLE IF THERE IS NO TABLES WITHOUT ANYONE THEN TRY TO FIND SOMEONE YOU KNOW AND SEE IF YOU CAN SIT WITH THEM IF THEY SAY YES THEN YOU WILL HAVE SOMEONE TO SIT WITH. IF YOUR EX FRIEND SAYS ANYTHING JUST TELL HER YOU DO NT WANT TO SIT WITH HER BECAUSE ALL SHE DOES IS LIE TO YOU AND IF SHE BRINGS UP YOU LYING TO HER ASK HER HOW IT MADE HER FEEL.

Answer 8

Obviously she isn't your real friend,you shouldn't be eating in bathrooms because of her..Find a new friend that you can trust or a teacher who would like to talk to you about your problems and would sit near your at lunch.Let the table know how you feel and by that I don't mean dump milk on them or smack them,I mean write them a letter and explain how you feel.Don't feel that they control your life!

Answer 9

you could still be her friend. you can't ditch people just because they have a problem. maybe thats why you have no friends to sit with..youre always ditching them. don't be so judgemental. try talking to her about her issues first. and start making some new friends

Answer 10

why dont have a slow talk with her and tell her what u know... isnt it easy.... come on... speak out loud... well i think u better start making friends with anyone.. u cant just lay on only one friend.... itis true to left a friend is hard however do u really want to stick with her.... no u wouldnt... so i think u better talk to her.... make her realise what she had done... need more help lay it on me...