Newlyweds....?

Question

How do go about mixing your own family tradtions with those of your new spouse?

Answer 1

You do this over time. My husband and I blended and mixed ours very well. I have learned from his mom and family and their traditions and my husband has learned from my family as well. We love putting these ideas and traditions together and making new memories and fun times for our own family now! We also have made some of our own traditions to pass down to our children.

Answer 2

You're in a marriage. A marriage is composed of compromise. Both of you need to sit down and prioritize what traditions are extremely important to you and the traditions that are not as important.

Work together to pull together a list of traditions you can both settle on. When there is a tradition that you both absolutely can't agree on, discard that tradition for the both of you, and decide to make a new tradition of your own.

Sooo... get a piece of paper, create four columns:

1. Dick's traditions 2. Jane's traditions 3. Decided tradition and 4. New tradition (in a conflict situation).

I hopes this helps and good luck to you both!

Answer 3

The easiest way is to start with the holidays, talk about what each family normally does for each of the holidays and then work out what you, as a couple, will do to try to keep both traditions alive. Some compromises will have to be made but both families will understand that, it is what happens when you join families.

Answer 4

Don't try to do it all at once. Take small steps in integrating those traditions. Sit down and decide which ones are the most important(to keep family peace) and do those first. The less important ones can follow. As long as you both are good at compromise it can make your marriage even more solid year after year.

Answer 5

combine them together, take something of your tradition and her tradition and create it together and you will have made your own family tradition. me and my hubby did that and it works out now its our family tradition, in his family football was the big highlight on thanksgiving and in my family it was putting up the christmas tree hanging the lights ornaments etc all day chore, so we combined them we do the whole christmas thing but take 4 hours off for football, hope it works out for you, but advice to the newlyweds, comprimising and communication is the 2 good keys to a long healthy marriage

Answer 6

We did it like this....

We put each tradition in a hat where they conflicted...i.e. opening presents on xmas eve vs. xmas day. Then we alternated picking and the person who picked "decides what day to open presents" got to pick that year. Then we alternated years...after a few years we didn't really care and we really just kind of blended everything...

The fact that you are talking about it is GREAT!

Best of Luck!

Answer 7

What about making your NEW family traditions?

Answer 8

I guess both sides of the family need to accept each other.

Answer 9

you may have to make up your own,in order for everyone to get along