I am mad, I think he might be having an affair. I saw 3 emails on his computer..he deleted them before I got to look. Plus $400 is missing from our account. He came home late 3 times last week and once already this week.
Am I wrong for thinking he is cheating? What do I do? HELP!!!
2007-03-07 12:21:55 · 46 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you need to do is to go to the friends house. Then go home saying you forgot your make up,toothbrush, or something like that. When you get to your house be quiet and just open the door quiet.
If he is cheating you need to catch him in the act...bring your camera so you can take picture of the other woman.
The picture will be all you need in divorce court.
2007-03-07 13:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Navulam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong for thinking that. That is what I would think as well if my husband told me to stay at a friends house for the night. And if you saw emails and money is missing. Although I would also have the thought of drugs or gambling. Maybe he has got into a addiction that just cant stop. What I would honestly do though is agree to stay at a friends house, do not let him think that you are suspicious though. Leave the house like you would and have a friend meet you not to far from the house in a vehicle he doesnt know. Wait and see if he leaves the house or if someone else comes over. Calmly follow him if he leaves but dont make it suspicious that you are following him. Then catch him in the act of whatever it is that he is doing. Dont let him over power you, be a women and think! And do what is right! Good luck!
2007-03-07 12:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by butterflycassandra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all sit down and breathe and just calm down for now. Do not go to a friends house for the night. Stay home or if you do go to the friends house sneak back home during the night and do a little spying to see what you find out. Either way this should be pretty interesting. Basically you should catch him in the act somehow to make sure he is cheating or not. Have you confronted him about this yet? Ask him where the missing money went to and see what he has to say for himself. Good luck to you and i hope you find out something soon. It does seem to me that he could be cheating but you need proof before actually accusing. Be smart and be careful and hire a private detective and have him followed or have a friend that he does not know follow and spy on him here and there.
2007-03-07 12:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not jump to any conclusions. Ask him why he wants you to go to a friends house, and why there is $400 missing from your account. If he has a legitimate excuse do not do anything until you find something suspicious again. If you still feel like he is having a affair, then let him know how you feel, DO NOT SNEAK AROUND. If you do and it turns out he is not having an affair then he will be upset with you. Instead talk to him and let him know how you feel, if he says that he is not having an affair then he will be able to give you reasons as to why unusual things have been occurring.
2007-03-07 12:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by AFGbrunette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy, nothing turns a husband on more than a suspicious wife who snoops through his emails! First of all, give the guy some credit! What idiot would be stupid enough to cheat on his wife in his own house? Second, why not just ask him what he took $400 out of your account for? Third, ask him why he came home late 3 nights last week! At least give the guy a chance to explain before you judge him, convict him, sentence him, and punish him!
2007-03-07 12:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets rule out a few things,is your Birthday near or anniversary have you been want something done to the house or get something new,and is your husband the type to do these things for you if you wanted them.400.00 could do a lot in the house or for something new.And if not is your husband leaving early for work or coming home late or on the phone a lot,does he say he is going out with the guys more than he has been,most important is your sex life gone downhill,if so he might be cheating on you,but first wait till you go home and see if he has done anything for you are maybe hid something to give you later,check all this out or maybe follow him some to see what he is up to.
2007-03-07 12:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do go, he probably won't stay home. So even if you do come back later, he won't be there. So you need to act like you are going and have a friend right down the street waiting for you so you can swap out cars(not the car of the friend where you are supposed to be). Then just sit there and if he leaves, follow him. If he has someone come over, I would call the police, and show up when the police do, just in case you feel like doing something you shouldn't, you won't. Also to have them witness what happened in case you need it for court. It will all be documented.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 13:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he just has a surprise for you... Why not go to the friends house and come by and see what is up while you are away or plant a tape recorder with an eight hour tape under the bed or do you have a video camera that you could hide some where. I hate to say spy but do what you have to do to protect your marriage. I screwed up and will never do it again. If all else fails tell him you concern. Communication is the key to a marriage. Good Luck.....
2007-03-07 12:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by winter wonderland 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And what is his excuse for you staying away from home? Pack your bags and go then show up at perhaps 1:00 a.m. with an excuse that you forgot something important. Have the item you forgot in mind in case you don't catch him at anything...this time. I don't think you are wrong for your suspensions. Like you, I can't say for a fact he's cheating but with those signs I'd sure as heck be looking into it.
2007-03-07 12:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating , maybe not, stupid, definately.if he is that stupid with his cheating, he wants to be caught, I have never been a cheater but it seems clear to me, he wants you interested. I am sure you have called him on this already so if he asked you to stay away, he has gotta figure curosity will get the best of you. I would guess he is planning some sort of a surprise with the missing 400 bucks and you are ruining it with your paranoia
2007-03-07 13:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋