I have come upon a turning point in my life. I'm in my mid 30's and due to circumstances because my career, relationship, loss of my place of ten years in SF, bad finances....moved to be with my folks in a small town of Augusta GA to rethink what my next move should be. I've realized I've made some mistakes that have put me in this situation and try to focus on the positive, but with few job options in my field out here, and the discission to move back to get the job i want seems so far away at times, I've become depressed and find it hard to focus.....even a resume' seems hard, and the more I'm out here...the worse it gets.....finding a clear objective is important i know, but sometimes I feel my options are low...
what should my next move be......keep my contacts, explore new options, find other ways my talents could be used? Confused....
2007-03-07 11:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by d2re 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I also need to mention that I'm in some debt, so that puts the pressure on me, but that is not my main focus. The focus is the career I want to have back in SF when I return with more confidence. I was in the photo production world for 7+ years and want to stay in the visual type marketing world, if not the photography side as well and want to move on this fast, but I do realize how fortunate I'm to have these 2 months to really reflect on that. Putting it all on paper is a good idea and I've also made a 2 year forcast as to what my salary should be and to pay off my debt in 2 years. Now my next big move is to really feel the self-esteem come back somehow. I've started counseling as well, but sometimes I want answers fast and want to move forward quicker....I know it take s some time for this...but it's hard to realize sometimes....this is only a short time in my life...., but I want to bring it all together somehow....
2007-03-07 12:27:10 · update #1
Sorry to hear about this situation.
I think what is going on with you is a NORMAL reaction to the HUGE changes that have happened to you.
If money is not a huge problem (since you are living with your parents in a less costly town) maybe you can go to work for the habitat for humanity.
When you are helping others, it helps you out too. By the time you finish swinging those hammers you will be too tired to feel bad and continue on your road to depression.
Furthermore, you can meet some great networking contacts there and you will have something to put on your resume to fill the void between your new life and your old one.
YOu next step could be a trip to the unemployment office.
THey can probably assist you in completing your resume and help you find a few job listings in your career field.
Your mom and Dad are extremely happy that you have returned. If you can't do it for yourself right now, fake it until you feel better when you are around them so that they dont feel bad for you (you dont want their sympathy). See about going into counseling (you should be able to locate a number in your phone book).
whatever you do, DO NOT call back the ex that you left in SF.
YOu can do this
and you will be so much stronger once you make it to the other side,
DONT give up!
2007-03-07 12:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you need an objective a goal to help you move forward. But please, do not get yourself down. You are young, very fortunate to have this opportunity of having time to take stock and sum things up. Do not dwell on the past, whatever happened there is just experience good or bad, it is b ehind you now and you are a wiser person because of it. That is what life is fundamentally, it is about experiencing things positive and negative. It sems the job is more important to you than where you live so start there. Look nationwide for work in your field and then consider posts that come up. Look on it as a game, a challenge, lets see what you can do. Get prepared by getting your resume updated, look at your wardrobe and get your clothes taken care of, make sure you pay attention to eating sleeping and expercise. Take the time to enjoy your family as you may be leaving soon. Try to find a way to calm your mind so the answers will be able to come to you, like walking or swimming. Don;t be complicating things by looking at women leave that for now. If you want to organize yoruself why don;'t you lay out a plan on paper.
2007-03-07 12:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by beachloveric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be developing a good understanding of your new realities and progressively working through the issues.
A couple of things come to mind.
It may not be helpful to plan on resuming/recreating your career as you left it. You did your best at that time and now you're learning the lessons of those experiences and going through major personal changes. Check this out. Is it possible, even probable, that past you knew has gone for good?
(Perhaps this is over-simplistic. Consider using the Internet to participate in photography/visual design from where you are now, geographically and financially.)
In some parts of our lives that are very structured, objectives certainly are important. However I now believe if I can't find an objective easily it is because I'm looking in the wrong place or the wrong way. I've found I can easily beat myself up like that. Be easier on yourself. The changes you are making will take their own time - if you rush this you'll put yourself back right where you were.
Read something by Ekhart Tolle and take it from there.
Good luck!
2007-03-08 10:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Chris N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change is confusing for everyone because the future is always uncertain and nothing is guaranteed.
Any course requires sticking it out for awhile so choose the path you feel will make you the happiest.
The more content you are , the easier it will be for you to deal with the inevitable setbacks or bumps that occur on all paths.
If you choose a path you are not so enthused about , you will be more inclined to quit at the first obstacle.
Only you know if a new path or going back to the old appeals to you more.
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2016-09-30 08:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋