Is it wrong for an American man to go to Brazil to seek a wife?

Question

I’m really not compatible with American women, we just don’t seem to get along. We just want drastically different things. But I have found that I get along very well with Brazilian women, I’ve traveled a lot and have found that Brazilian women generally posses the attributes that I seek. I find them to be kind, strong, passionate, hard working, monogamous, family oriented, and obviously beautiful. I know you can’t generalize an entire people even if the stereotype is positive, but in my personal experience I have found that there are many Brazilian women like I have described.

With that being said there are not many Brazilian women in the US, so I was thinking of going to Brazil to find the women of my dreams. The problem is that I have heard people(mostly Women) say that I would be taking advantage of poor women who want to get out of poverty, or that it’s the same thing as sexual slavery or a mail order bride.

But personally I don’t think its anything like that, it’s not like I’m a big fat loser who can’t get a women so I prey on disadvantaged foreign women. I’m actually 28 years old, Caucasian, 6-1, 200 pounds, dark hair, blue eyes, athletic body frame, a college degree, a very good high paying job, I’m monogamous, generous, and I treat women very well. So what do you think? Is what I’m doing unethical?

Answer 1

Unethical? Without knowing you better, hard to say, but I can put a few things on the table you should consider:

1) how long do you plan to stay there? Long enough to really get to know people, including women, well enough to really fall in love? That would involve moving there until you find "the one."

No? Planned on, say, a 2-or-4-week vacation? How likely is it that you'll be able to get to know someone very well in that time?

2) If you're not compatible with "American women," well, that's a big group of people and we're not interchangeable. There are many kind, strong, passionate, hard-working, monogamous, family-oriented women here (born here or immigrated). Considering how many different cultures are represented here, you might consider the idea that if you can't get along with such a large, diverse group, you might be at least a good part of the problem, and that's a problem you'll take with you to Brazil, or anywhere else.

3) What are you thinking you will get in Brazil that you couldn't find here? What do you want in a wife? You should know these things, honestly, so that you can share them with anyone who catches your eye, so she can make an informed choice.

4) What are her (this hypothetical Brazilian woman's) reasons for marrying you? If a man showed up, looking for a wife because he couldn't find one in the whole of his own country, a sincere, honest woman would think long and hard about why he had to go so far afield to find a wife. A woman who was not sincere or honest would probably just grab the brass ring and figure she could take her next opportunity when it came by, too. Does Brazil have a dramatic oversupply of women and undersupply of men so that your arrival will be hailed with parades and confetti? Otherwise, yeah, there's a good chance she's taking you the way a drowning victim grabs a floatation device.

Here's the thing, if you are reasonably attractive, well-educated and employed, monogamous, generous, and treat women very well and you STILL have to leave the country to find a wife, then you need to look long and hard at what you want, and why, because it's unlikely you'll find what you're looking for in Brazil, or anywhere else.

Answer 2

Nope, what ever you are about to do is not unethical.
Nowadays, because the influence of media and "Paris and Nicole", many young american girls are getting WAYYYY too materialistic and not worry about their husbands any more.
I can't say that this is true to the whole population, but it is true to most of them. Have you seen MTV's "My sweet sixteen"?
My point exactly.
While foreign women sometimes they look for an american man that can take them out of poverty. Is that so bad? For a person to look for some one to love that can help them get out of poverty? is that not what a husband should do? To provide for his wife financially and emotionally? That is not sexual slavery my friend.
Some people might think of it like that, but then again why should you care about other people's thoughts? Is it not you who wants to have a family with the woman who can actually gives you comfort and love the way you want it?

Answer 3

Go any where you want, for whatever reason you personally have. I think I hear more of a problem that you're asking for an opinion. Happy trails!

Answer 4

if you knew what you liked and didnt go for it that would be dumb. in other words youre lucky you know what you like so go get it! just make sure that the poor ones wont take advantage of you for your money.....
i dont think its bad to go to another country to find someone you like... just dont tell anyone it was because of that