We were in bed having sex. Her friend wants to tell her it
happened but I want to keep it quiet. I'm like how in the
world did I get into this. Her friend says its wrong not to tell her.
How should I handle it.
2007-03-07 11:38:02 · 14 answers · asked by Perry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's a little late to think of what's right or wrong. You should have "handled" it before you went over to Best Friend's house.
What WERE you doing there anyway? You didn't have a clue that there was any attraction there? I think at some level you did realize, you gambled, and "won". You got laid.
You also got screwed - not in the literal sense, but in the sense of proving you're no better than your own penis. If gf really IS your girlfriend and someone you care about, then you don't go hauling the family jewels to some other girl's house and then have a roll in the hay.
Then you certainly don't sneak around behind her back trying to cover the lie. Listen, this is serious! Do you really want to be the type of person that no one can trust or depend on......the type of person who is driven by what's in his shorts, rather than driving his own life?
Now, let me ask you this: Obviously you have had multiple partners here...how do you know that you haven't been exposed to some STD (and some are FATAL, others INCURABLE) or transmitted something to these girls? And if you just happened to "fall into bed" with Best Friend, did you also happen to have some protection with you, or could she possibly be pregnant now?
You may have way more to worry about than whether gf #1 finds out the truth.....you asked how you should handle it, and this is my advice for the future: Keep your pants ON, and your girl"friends" to a maximum of ONE.
Do get tested, and do be responsible enough to tell your gf the truth.....and be man enough to break up with them both. This is way more trouble than anyone needs.....
Signed, BTDT
(Been there done that)
2007-03-07 12:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was just dumb.
You're screwed dude. You can't have your cake and eat it too. As I see it, there are four possible endings:
1. You confess. You tell her you know it was unbelievably stupid, and you wish you could go back in time and undo it (but don't beg for mercy or forgiveness). She will dump you, and she should. You'll retain a small shred of dignity, and get karma points for honesty.
2. The best friend confesses. Both girls end up hating you. They may even band together to hate you and then get all the other girls they know to hate you. Your life is over unless you move to another country.
3. Nobody confesses to your girlfriend, but she eventually hears it through the grapevine. See scenario #2.
4. Nobody confesses and miraculously word never gets out. This is a miracle. Do you hear me? A miracle! Immediately renounce all worldly ties, move to a monastery and devote the rest of your life to God.
2007-03-07 19:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by metapede 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it as if you were in your girlfriend's shoes and she cheated on you with your bestfriend. You should most def. tell her because its bad enough that you had sex with her friend but to keep it a secret will eventually eat your conscience up to. So tell your girlfriend and deal with the consequences.
2007-03-07 19:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by diamondz_a_mill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you visiting your girlfriends best friend anyway. I think you should tell her and let her decide what's the next move for the two of you. Its wrong to keep it from her.
2007-03-07 19:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude like ur a azz for that.... and u should listen to her friend b/c if u don't omg ... i hate to see how pist she's going to be i mean her best friend like... ur in some **** b/c omg... she's going to be pist at both ya'll either way it goes but "maybe" not as long if u tell her..... and u better have a good reason for it happen.... dude like so freaking wrong...u just don't do that i mean that going to start a lot of drama so u best be ready.....
2007-03-07 19:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Gel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just wrong. Just tell her so she can stop talking to both of you guys. People don't need friends or boyfriends like you two.
2007-03-07 19:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her and hopefully she dumps your cheating behind and never speaks to you or her so called "best friend" again.
you aren't a very nice person and deserve the heart break thats coming to you.
2007-03-07 19:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is her friend worried about it now she didn't mind when you guys were having sex. I think you should just break up with your girlfriend. Your not right.
2007-03-07 19:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her. you may suffer consequences, but that is just something you will have to deal with. one of the main things a girl wants in a relationship is honesty.
2007-03-07 19:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by BAMBI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All three of you go on Jerry Springer and let the confession start.
2007-03-07 19:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo Con 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋