I have just been dumped by my gf of two years. She has tortured me emotionally, and I am a broken man. She has played me like a violin, and I have been on a roller coatser ride since January of 2006. This girl runs home to her parents, (SHE IS NEARLY 30) dumping me via text or email and then comes back and apologizes and this cycle has repaeted itself every couple of weeks for the last year. I really cared about this girl a lot, and she has hurt me very badly! I can't believe that someone I was so good to does not ever want to speak to me again! Can anyone offer me some advice....?
2007-03-07 11:37:03 · 14 answers · asked by fuji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move on
Hang out with the guys
Get laid by someone else real fast
Change ur phone # and email addy
Do not respond to any of her future pleas for forgiveness
and always remember this......
SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE!!!
2007-03-07 11:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In any relationship,whether its romantic or work or even you and your neighbor. now get this, who ever appears to care less has the most power.If you could manage to appear indifferent the power would swing to the other side. don't respond to her calls...if its face to face don't reveal the puppy dog want you so bad it hurts so much emotions she obviously invokes in you. She will stop and be confused,and at not getting the fix to her ego that she has become so accustomed to getting with little effort,she will move towards you. It will really work.In love rarely is it that each want equally. One flees and one pursues.its as old a ritual as breathing....try it if you really feel she the one.
BUT if you want to be happy, at peace in your skin, you would let her go.She obviously cant be trusted with you.If the pattern has been established that you hold still, while she kicks you. why's it going to change?That's the way yal set it up, and that's what she's good at,huh, ain't that attractive?Also, you must own your part in this,normal people retreat when kicked.....you? No,you seem to like rough.No grease,and your pants still on. Don't be a victim, or a martyr.yep,i know all about roller coaster's built to crash.
lastly,use the big brain god gave ya. you can still choose the easier softer way.May it greet you warmly.
2007-03-07 20:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Leigh M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You deserve waaaaaaaaaaaay better. Trust me, you had a dysfunctional relationship. And you probably stuck around because you didn't want to be lonely. My best advice is to move on and DO NOT get back together with her. The cycle will continue...it is endless.
I was in a really bad relationship and I would keep taking him back. Then I found someone that treated me like I was never treated before. He respects me, he is sweet, kind, loving, generous, respectful, and I am the same way to him. Now we are husband and wife and I couldn't be happier.
Trust me, I know from personal experience, the best thing for you should be to move on. Find someone that treats you the way you treat her. Good luck.
2007-03-07 19:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
read what you wrote
what is wrong with you????
do you enjoy being "tortured emotionally"? being "dumped" regularly? being "played like a violin"?
she hurt you? no baby, you don't have a single bit of respect for yourself otherwise you would have not stood there and begged for more.
she dumped you every two weeks since january 2006. thats about 36 times. how many times does something bad have to happen to you before you get a clue?
you "care" for her???? get real.
start caring for yourself and then you will meet someone decent.
if you dont treat yourself right, nobody else will either.
2007-03-07 20:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fuji... you have to let her go. There is someone much better out there waiting for you.
If you continue to pine after a girl that isn't worth the banana peel she rode in on, then you miss out on a truly wonderful girl. Make room for another and LET HER GO. Good luck and feel better.
2007-03-07 19:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by 452 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shame on her if she fooled you once... heck... I will even say shame on her the second time.... but after that... shame on you... stay away from that girl. For her doing this when she is 30, she must not feel like you are meeting her mental needs, and feels the need to run home to mommy and daddy. So let her run and don't worry about it.
2007-03-07 20:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by chrystalbelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't fret it, act like you do not care. She will come back begging. I know that is hard, but trust me...do IT! Quit being so nice, she obviously does not want a sweetie. Some women love the bad boy. I have had hundreds LOVE me, lol.
2007-03-07 19:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe shes just someone you should forget about. Move on. Find another girl. Go on match.com or eharmony.com and taht should help you. I feel bad for you!! Email me @ kennydude935@yahoo.com for more help. I am an expert at this kind of thing. Im here for you.
2007-03-07 19:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are better girls for you. If you can't avoid her, move and try new things. Get involved in something that you have a passion for. Throw yourself into work, charity or a hobby. If you have other options, you may stop listening to her tune.
2007-03-07 19:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anastasia W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry. I hope you have a belif in God. When you need strength to do anything, he is a good person to talk to. Also, lots of time will help, and getting out to help other people, and just dating other women,should help. Take care, and best wishes.
2007-03-07 19:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by gemandsue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋