I dated a guy for a year and a half and we fell in love. He proposed and I accepted, though my father never approved of our relationship, but I put my foot down and said this is the guy for me. and he had to approve of him. Later I met his family (they knew of our relationship from the beginning) , they flew in from India, and apparently his mom decided she didn't like me and didn't want him to marry me anymore. He left me for his family and sucked it up and moved on, I don't know how I did it. But now I don't want to get married at all, I don't like any man I meet, and I always find faults in men. I cry often, not for him, but for the fact that I feel betrayed. I seem to know the answer and just to be strong, but sometimes I can't help it. I know he wasn't worth it and I am glad I found out before I committed myself. But why do I feel like I never want to be married and how can I overcome this?
2007-03-07 11:36:24 · 6 answers · asked by skagen.2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My dad didn't approve due to religious reasons.
2007-03-07 11:41:19 · update #1
you have felt this betrayal deeply, and it appears to have changed you in a very real and lasting way. I think the issues that you face are probably beyond the scope of what Yahoo can answer and you should probably talk to a professional who can help you through this rocky spot in your path. Good luck, I wish I had better advice for you- Blessings- dd
2007-03-07 11:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you feel betrayed, because you were, and trusting someone again is going to be very hard. What is also going to be hard is getting that out of your mind, all men are not like him! Most of them are not. You need to figure a way out to get over this issue because if marriage is what you want in the end, you are not going to get it by pushing every man away for what ever reason you seem to find. Go to a counselor, that will help, or read a self help book, I went to landmark and that is what helped me get over my trust issue. I never trusted men because #1 my father left me and my sisters and #2 my husband cheated on me - so I was like why trust, why love because I was going to get burned.
http://www.landmarkeducation.com/
2007-03-07 20:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
' seem to know the answer and just to be strong, but sometimes I can't help it. I know he wasn't worth it and I am glad I found out before I committed myself. '
You already found the answer, nothing more is needed except, accept it, move on and forget about it. When you feel said, think of all the things that are going good in your life.
2007-03-07 19:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have a wounded heart and it will take time to heal. when you make a conscious decision to commit to someone and they change their mind and cast you aside it will affect you trusting someone again. Don't despair. All men are not alike. It takes time to find the right person, but you must also not try to compare everyone to the person that hurt you. There are many good men that you could be passing on because they may have small qualities similar to this past fiance. Good Luck.
2007-03-07 20:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be suffering from depression. Get medical help. Your outlook might change with the right treatment plan.
2007-03-07 19:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it, when you meet the right guy you'll know and you'll want to marry him.....go live your life and be happy you were spared this misery.....(note to self, if your dad doesn't approve, there's a good reason.....)
2007-03-07 19:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋