My hubby and I been together about 4 years now and we are in our 20's.........He always thinks I'm cheating on him or looking for someone else even though we are married and have kids. WHY do you guys think that? I'm not dooing either one of these. What's your in put??????????????/
2007-03-07 11:27:07 · 30 answers · asked by Rose K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
guys (like me) are protective... if they find someone they really like and they themsdelves are uncomfortable with how they look or there personality is...... they feel that there girlfreind or wife might just be with them for the sake to be with somebody and that she is trying to find someone better...... this especially happens if you have attractive guy freinds that date alot of girls in a short period.... just tell him how you feel i guess
2007-03-07 11:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I need more information to determine the best answer for this specific question, but I can always appreciate the time to inform you of certain things why men think they're being cheated on although they could assume incorrectly.
1: Wife is no longer respectful or show any signs of concern.
2: Wife does not compliment her Husband as much she used to.
3: Wife does not show sexual attraction as much as she used to.
4: Wife hangs out with friends frequently although her Husband is against it.
5: Wife does not communicate as often with her Husband as she used to.
6: Wife has a lot of man friends.
7: Wife does not cook or show any responsibility around the house.
8: Wife is dissatisfied with sexual pleasuring.
9: Wife stays out late at nights, or on certain occasion.
10: wife clears Phone Calls, or Internet cookies and deletes emails.
Thank you.
2007-03-07 11:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but it sounds like he has some insecurity issues. Maybe he was hurt in a past relationship. Sometimes if a man is out there doing something he has no business doing, he will insist you are doing the same, that is a possibility as well. There is nothing that you are going to do or say to ease his mind, so just keep doing what ya doing. Good luck sweetie.
2007-03-07 11:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no intention of being unfaithful to him, just don't pay too much mind to him. It's obviously an issue he's dealing with. Only with time will he get out of that mode. On the other hand, if you did have some thoughts of trying to slip out of the relationship, then he's somewhat sensing it. Men and women can be ruthlessly jealous, for many reasons. However, being with one person at that age for about 4 years can get tricky. We all have desires; the question is; how strong is your love. If it is strong try to get a wise friend to help you go through this.
2007-03-07 11:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by fazdeel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and I know why he is thinking this. I bet you have an outgoing and friendly personality. I bet you are attractive and enjoy life. I bet you are a naturally open, beautiful type of personality. I bet you are an independent thinker and am not afraid to speak your mind. I bet you are confident and self assured. This openess about you....the things that attracted you to him in the first place is now probably a threat. I have been in your situation....I did nothing wrong....I loved my husband and was loyal, but he always thought I was capable of cheating. His jealousy destroyed our marriage....he wanted to change me, he couldnt believe I loved him with all my heart....He was insecure, very insecure. His mind was filled with imaginings, not based on what I was doing or not doing, but entirely on his own insecurities. Before his jealousy destroys the marriage, got get some counselling. It will get to a point where you wont be game to look sideways at anybody because then you will have to answer all sorts of outrageous questions from your husband. You will end up walking on eggshells around him, and too afraid to be yourself. Before that happens both of you need to get some professional help because his jealousy will destroy the marriage....maybe not now, but in time, it will, and if it doesnt it will change you from this bubbly, happy-go-lucky young woman you are now, into a miserable, sad, closed person who is too afraid to do or say anything in case it ends up in an interrogation session from you husband.
2007-03-07 11:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem starts from his self esteem. He cannot understand why a beautiful, sexy woman like you (that is the way he feels at least) is with a guy like him. If he were you he would be looking for something better because he knows that you both deserve and can get better than him.
Only by addressing his self image will you solve this problem. I know because I was / am the same. At least I now understand the issue and am learning to deal with it.
2007-03-07 16:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this would only be an opinion, But you are either a good looking girl, or you appear to be looking at other people. Guys might feel you could be cheating if they begin to feel you could "get a better guy". In other words, if they are feeling insecure about themselves, they start to feel you are looking elsewhere. The best thing you can do is reassure him he is great, or good looking, or that you are very attracted to him... etc. All those things. Let him know how important he is in your life.
2007-03-07 11:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by bigbadbaldbazza 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that your hubby is having unexpressed insecurities from his growing up years. It would be better to get him talk about this, otherwise, his sense of self-esteem will deteriorate. In terms of physicality, it could be that you are much appealing than him that is causing an anxiety in him. Talk to him and let him realize that what worries him should not be a reason to worry at all. A reassuring embrace will do wonders!
2007-03-07 11:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Del S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if your a really good looking gal then obviously your husband is going to think that your cheating on him. Second if he has an insecurity problem then that might be it too. Rea sure him by being much more intimate with him. Prove to him that you love him. Hell was his feet and caress him until he shuts up about it.
2007-03-07 11:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be an issue of low self-esteem on the part of your husband, or it could be because of a history of infidelity on someone's part. Has he had reason not to trust you in the past? What were the circumstances? It could be any of a number of reasons, but I think those two would top the list.
2007-03-07 12:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some of us just cant believe that we have such a beautiful wife and that some one out there is trying to get to you oh many of know that the women dont try but there are some guys who just dont give up just tell hubby your married to him only him and he dosnt belive you grab by the shirt pull him down to the floor and get very very very buzy with him
2007-03-07 11:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋