My mom and I had an argument, after that she's basically done everything BUT disown me [really].
Now, I feel like I’m not wanted in my own home. A few months back my cousin moved in with us, [he's 29, living rent-free, doesn't pay any bills, has my mom waiting on him hand and foot, something even I don't do, she doesn't even do the things she does for my cousin FOR my dad! am I missing something here?] and ever since he moved in things haven't been the same around here. He's always sucking up to her and putting her against my dad and me, and the funny thing is that he always succeeds. So now, I find myself alone and a bit hurt, she's been sayings things about me to my dad, and every time I walk into a room she walks out [and so does Mr. Freeloader right along with her]. I try to talk to her but she basically ignores my every word, it’s like I’m invisible to her!
Now I try to play it off as if it doesn't bother me none, but in all reality it's killing me inside...
2007-03-07 11:21:46 · 14 answers · asked by ☆Karma☆ 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I really don't know how to go about it anymore, it's as if I’m walking on eggshells here.
She even went as far as to stop paying for my education. I have a job now in order to pay for it myself, but it hurts that she turned her back one me the way she did.
What can I do, I feel like I’m sort of slipping into a depression, and it's something I don't want to happen...
You guys have any advice for me? :O(
2007-03-07 11:22:09 · update #1
You need to talk with your Dad and find out what he thinks about what is going on? Then get some alone time with your Mom and tell her how you feel in a non-accusatory way. Just remember the I messages, I feel like, I am concerned, etc.
You are too involved to have a totally clear perspective, talk with a trusted friend and let them give you options that aren't possible in such a short format as this.
Ya gotta talk with somebody though, you don't need to be depressed, trying to work and go to school at the same time.
I lived in a house like that for part of my marriage and it was no fun at all.
2007-03-08 22:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some personal counseling could benefit you. I'd also try to get the cousin out of the house - sounds like he's causing a lot of problems for you all. Seems sort of fishy to me...of course, I'm not on the inside of the situation, but your mom should be caring for you and your father first. If you can afford it, you might be better off living by yourself or with a roommate to get yourself out of that situation. Maybe down the road you could talk to your family more and try to patch things up. At least you're getting along with your dad - you should try to talk to him to see how he feels about things too.
2007-03-07 12:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st things 1st you have to take care of you. If you feel like you are getting depressed you should probably seek out the help of a therapist. Don't let these things take you under work through them.
I know it has to be difficult so the best thing you can do is make your feelings known in a polite manner. Take a drive with your Mom, go to the park and talk. You have to stay calm and you can't blame or point fingers that will cause her to be on the defensive.
If your Mother is not receptive to your feelings once you've explained them then you need to get out of there and do what is best for you. This will pass in time but it is not fair for you to go through the feelings of being unloved and unwanted in your home.
2007-03-07 11:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any friends or relatives you can live with, I would suggest that. As far as your education, there are many grants and loans availabe. Look into every possibility on that. You might also want to consider getting job if you don't have one already. I know all this is going to turn your life upside down, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. You can't control the behavior of others, but you can help yourself out.
2007-03-07 11:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are going through this. Have you tried talking to your dad about this. It's his home to, why doesn't he kick your cousin out? See if your dad can convince your mom on all 3 of you getting family counseling?
2007-03-07 11:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad and get him kicked out...and try talking to your mom too...If she were to die tomorrow with your relationship the way it is you'd feel awful.
2007-03-08 08:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your dad to tal to your mom, surely he wil do something, since what else is he doing whilst all this is happening?
2007-03-07 17:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my only advise is to let your parents know how you feel. perhaps write them a letter.
you will feel better getting it all out in the open, regardless of the consequenses.
good luck.
2007-03-07 11:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just get a job and leave the house.
2007-03-07 11:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I can't read all of that!
I'll answer with out reading. You should probably kill whatever or whoever is bothering you, start a drinking and drug habit, and or masturbate.
Of course include a healthy diet of hamburger helper
That usually solves all problems
2007-03-07 11:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋