anyway, the thing is, what do i do to keep from having a nervous breakdown? Lately, I came home punching pillows and being a real ***** to my man (who's trying real hard at understanding, but failing to be supportive in my decision to leave NOW) and I can't stand another minute of this senseless life i'm living. I don't want to teach, I want to sing. HOwever, as my man sais, it's not real life...we need to start a family,etc..and my dreams just don't fit into our lifestyle. Actually, we've worked out that next year i'll have my year off to work on music, but meanwhile, I'm on the verge of running away and escaping back to my lovely life in barcelona, where I worked simple jobs and had plenty of time to sing and write and act...basically, i miss that life, but i also love my man..but my 2 lives just don't go together, and if i have to choose, i'll choose love...but i feel like i'm not completing myself is some way.what do i do to stop feeling like i'm missing out on my life and my truth
2007-03-07 11:15:23 · 14 answers · asked by ingrid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Who says you need to start a family? That would be unwise given your current state of instability. Put the children idea on the back burner till you settle this other stuff.
2. Who says you have to teach instead of working a simple job? Is it completely a financial decision? Can you count some money, redo the budget, and change jobs to something simpler?
3. Who says your dreams don't fit your lifestyle? Dreams fit anywhere. Accomplishing them is another story, of course.
4. Who says waiting will give you a nervous breakdown? Think of it as "I'm almost at my year off to work on music, it's coming soon" instead of focusing on your current dissatisfaction.
2007-03-07 11:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are depressed. A lot of women are in your situation-they always have to give up something(a dream or a job) for love and marriage. If you are very unhappy then take a break and go do what you wish.You will risk losing your love but on the other hand it sounds like you are not ready to settle down and raise a family and your dissatisfaction with your present life may seriously affect your relationship in the long run.
2007-03-07 11:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by prettywoman_eks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself. Do some soul searching and decide what is best for you and what speaks to your heart. But be true to yourself in the process. Don't give up what you truly love for love. In my opinion, love can be fleeting, and if someone truly loves you and respects you as much as themselves, they will allow you to do what makes you happiest. This could mean staying with your man and finding other ways here to compensate for what you miss from your past, singing contests, or teaching piano etc....or it could mean returning to what you were used to, in some cases good, and in others simply an attempt to get back the past. The past is sometimes quite simply best in the past and can't be the same ever again. Be true to yourself. Be happy and find what fills your heart.
2007-03-07 11:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in some time of our life some of us do felt like what you feel right now. I've been through what you feel now, i don't like my job and my boss but the pay is stable and considered as a proper job. The downside, i cried everyday after work and nearly had a nervous breakdown. My solution is, i quited my job and find something i don't hate that much but the pay is okay eventhough not as stable as my previous job. I stil haven't manage to go after what i want but atleast i spared my love one unwanted heartache and worry about me. I go to work everymorning looking forward to earn enough money for my dream. Before you succeed in doing what you want make sure you have enough money to support you while you are chasing your dream as not to burden your love one too much. Try figure out what job you wouldn't mind doing while waiting for you break to come. Good luck.
2007-03-07 11:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by dreamymoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should do what u love...u only live once. There is no point in teaching if u want to sing. Try convincing ur guy to move bak to Barcelona mayb he will agree. Might as well try.
2007-03-07 11:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Salt Shaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I would say go with what you love to do and if your man really loves you and cares, he will support your decision and be there for you the whole way through.
2007-03-07 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is not as big as it seems. Step back. Pull yourself out of this. You are an adult. Settle down or follow your dreams. You could do both if you work hard and he supports you mentally.
2007-03-07 11:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for your dreams/stay for love? you make the decision as you seem selfish enough.. you never once made a conciderate remark about your husband..tell you what go back to spain and give your husband a chance of being happy with someone less self obsessed..viva espania *****
2007-03-07 11:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have to live your life how ever it makes you happy as u only get one chance at it. you find yourself then find love with a person who loves the way u love yourself and the way you choose to live
2007-03-07 11:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by craig s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ever give up happiness. it goes with true love. there has to be a way to get the two to fit together. you have to find the key.
2007-03-07 11:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋