I lived with my boyfriend and we talked about getting married. I thought he was moving too fast, and we broke up. Six months later he called to say he was getting married in two days. I am still waiting for him to return items I left at the house we shared. Should I get him a gift for his wedding, if so what would be appropriate?
2007-03-07 11:13:56 · 20 answers · asked by Sara Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only if you guys still talk as friends. otherwise, no, and it may cause friction with the new wife.
2007-03-07 11:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've *got* to be kidding.
Return some items you left at the house? Are you George Costanza? Leaving your keys behind on purpose so you have a reason to see him again?
How much self-deception are you capable of? Six months and you can't stop thinking about him? How are you getting info about him - what's *that* all about?
Let's play 'Turn the Tables.' How would *you* feel if some meddling B I T C H showed up with a "wedding gift" for her ex -- not the two of you, her ex -- when you were the one marrying him? Of course you'd be p*ssed beyond belief and want to scratch her eyes out. So, how is it different when you are doing it?
Stop obsessing over him. Move on. Enough, already.
2007-03-07 14:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your beef? You broke up with him. He was moving too fast. Fine, and your business. So, he found someone. You obviously were correct about him wanting to move fast. He moved fast. She apparently moves fast too, and they're getting married. How are you wronged or harmed? You didn't want him. She does. So, what gift? None. Ignore the wedding. Also, just write off any stuff left in his house. Consider that your gift.
2007-03-07 11:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited to the wedding it would be appropriate for you to bring a gift. Since he told you two days before the wedding I assume that you are not invited thus it is a bit weird for you to think of giving them a gift. Just resign yourself to the fact that you are not with him any more, get your stuff and move on.
2007-03-07 12:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by adar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to get a gift. I can't imagine having something in the home from his former live-in lover is going to add anything to their life. It doesn't sound like you want to give a gift to wish them well, but to have a "thing" from you in her face.
As far as your stuff left at the house goes-- if you haven't made the effort to get your stuff back over these last 6 months, it's probably not all that important. His wife will most likely dump it.
2007-03-07 11:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is not appropriate. Those things that you left behind could now be considered a gift or call one time and set a time to pick those things up. If you opt to pick them up be cordial and then leave this couple alone...move on.
2007-03-07 11:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like someone wants to be on the mind of someone else during their wedding.
You don't find it strange that after you broke up he's marrying 6 months later?
2007-03-07 11:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would not be attending his wedding and so no gift would be required. When it is over, it is over.Move on and enjoy the rest of your life.
2007-03-07 11:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Cinna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, it is a nice idea but.....don't waste your money on making him happy...go buy something for yourself.....get your hair done.....after all he just broke up with u and now he is getting married...maybe a card..
2007-03-07 11:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. no gift. it is a nice thought on your part, but I am pretty sure the new wife will not appreciate it. your relationship is over. ask for your stuff back, and move on.
2007-03-07 11:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋