It's been abt a month since I broke up with neglectful b/f of a year. I knew it was the right thing & time to do it. I had to get out b4 I lost anymore dignity. I never nagged him. I was good at talking with him w/o bitching about stuff that was bothering me. (I obsessed w/ friends abt it, but never to him). I was very good to him. I was available when he wanted (no- i didn't drop everything for him, there was respect of my time on his part.) I gave him pleny of space to be with his friends. However, I always felt like I took a back seat in the relationship. Always. I always made things nice for him. I did things he wanted. Got along with his dorky friends & family. Plenty of great sex & BJ's. To top it off, I was much better looking than him & had more money! So my question to you is: Is he feeling any loss? Does he regret how he treated me? Do men feel as much as women feel about a loss of a relationship?
2007-03-07 11:10:55 · 15 answers · asked by Amanda80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know how your guy feels. But, yes men grieve when a relationship dies. I'd much prefer to simply die rather than ever go through another divorce. I have two close male friends, and saw how divorce was for them. I've been remarried for 15 years, but still occasionally feel pain from my first marriage. And, both my buddies are still feeling pain from their divorces, years later.
2007-03-07 12:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh yes!! My beautiful wife of 10 years fell out of love with me and found a coworker to love. Its been about 4 months since the breakup and divorce. I had to be taken to the hospital for emotional trauma, Did not sleep one minute for up to 9 days, Fell into a deep depression where I didn't give sh!t about anything. I'm now on a quick road to recovery because I realize now how much better my life will be without her self destructive habits pulling my life downward.
As for you if you are totally ignoring him and its only been about a month I can almost with certainty bet that he is thinking about you almost on every hour. He probably is having a hard time sleeping as well. The only thing that will change his thinking of you is another girl. I have a friend that when his wife had an affair he suffered a mild heart attack and he was only 24 and in good shape.
2007-03-07 14:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they sure do. I have seen my husband grieve when his grandmother died. I have never seen him in a break up situation though . But when we were first married we had a problem in the beginning and he cried and looked very sad alot so i say that some men sure do and others are just better at hiding their emotions.
2007-03-07 11:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gosh, you were just the most awesome girlfriend a guy could have. You were so much better than his friends and family.
It's very hard for the imperfected to live with the perfect. Sorry...I think he is breathing a giant sigh of relief.
2007-03-07 11:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost 50 lbs, and woke up crying from my sleep, I would say I suffered a tremendous loss when my wife and I divorced. She left and would not come back home. But life goes on.
2007-03-07 11:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really.
For the most part men don't feel that way about a lost relationship, they are not wired that way.
Some guys do but even then not in the way you think.
2007-03-07 11:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...I purely have been given out of a 14 year courting (he shattered my heart) so, I basically wish no longer, in any different case I had extra desirable positioned the nun's habit on :-) i think of it somewhat is clever to take issues very slowly and heal thoroughly after an prolonged courting yet, you mustn't place time constraints on your self....this is barely extra stress - the therapeutic isn't elementary sufficient. in case you meet somebody who's attracted to you for the period of the grieving era, extra power to them in the event that they provide you the time mandatory to heal. via him showing information and such compassion in this regard could point out to me adulthood - it somewhat is the kinda fellow i'm keen to watch for. solid success!
2016-12-18 17:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my first marriage ended, my life almost ended too. It was the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I am still not over that failure even though it's been nineteen years and I did find someone else.
2007-03-07 15:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to HOPE SO but buy the way my soon to be ex-husband is acting i don't think there care or feel much...they just move on and don't look back. pretty shitty if you ask me!
2007-03-07 11:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋