I currently live with my boyfriend and his 18 year old spoiled rotten child. Yes, I said 18. She hates me with a passion. I have tried to be rational with her but it has way over come being rational now. I am so frustrated that when she raises her voice I lose it. Only because she continues to lie and lie. It went so far this week that she said I struck her.
2007-03-07 11:10:18 · 11 answers · asked by ttsac76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's all about "Tough Love". Explain to your boyfriend in a manner in which he won't feel on the defensive side, because it is his daughter. Tell him how it makes you feel. Ask him how it makes him feel. Then, if he agrees, she needs to be moved out to learn responsibility.
If she really gets under your skin, tell her how you can give him something that she morally is forbidden to give him & ya'll can have more children...together. Of course, a response like that would cause more tension between the two of you. Bottom line is "daddy's little girl" is jealous of the competition.
2007-03-07 11:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it seems that your choices are obvious. Leave! Your boyfriend does not see what his daughter is doing to you, and if he does, then he doesnt care. Strike it on your own sister! Besides, it sounds as if you and your b/fs daughter are about the same age. Since she can push your buttons and lie on you with sheer precision. Mentally, I can surmise that you and her are rather close in age, therefore instead of a adult - teenage relationship, you two are more like sibling rivalries. Give your man some space, by acquiring sime of your own, and see what happens. IF nothing happens, well, I am quite sure that there are several men who would be interested in a self supportive woman.
2007-03-07 11:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I put the blame on your boyfriend. He is her father and he needs to step up and not allow that kind of behavior. If she is that miserable living with you, it would be better if she OR you found other living arrangements. If that isn't an option, then your boyfriend needs to make a very serious attempt to get her under control. And that may include counseling and/or not giving her any household/car privileges until she acts civil.
2007-03-07 11:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't handle her. She is an adult. Her father is allowing this behavior or she would be on the street the first time she disrespected you in any way. You need to move. This is a no-win situation. In the future, make sure you know where your lover stands on managing his kids BEFORE you move in together.
2007-03-07 11:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whats your boyfriend doing about it?
You shouldnt be doing any disipline. Shes not your child.
If she wont listen to her dad, kick her out.
If you have a problem with it and your boyfriend isnt helping, you move.
You have no right to lose it with her, you arent even her step-mom. Its your boyfriends job to handle her.
Good luck
2007-03-07 11:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by independent101 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all shes old enough to live on her own...and if your b/f dont stand up for you id just break off the relationship..your not married so you dont have to put up with that nonsense.
2007-03-07 11:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's 18 and should be out of the house. Kick her ungrateful butt out then maybe she'll have some respect
2007-03-07 11:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It up to Dad to deal with her. You have no real reason to put up with silliness from her. But, she lives with her Father. Right now, they are a package deal. So, deal with her, get Dad to do it, or leave.
2007-03-07 12:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, if it was a divorce thats hard to go through and doesn't want somone replacing there mom. TRY to deal with it....
Its part of the age too.
IDk much but i hope this contributes
2007-03-07 11:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by MACMAN9494 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calm down, at this age (18) they think they know it all.
Just get along with her and teach her positive things.
Stop getting upset with her and give her more compliments.
You both need to get along and get this evil, negative force
away from you.
Talk things out and be nice and kind.
2007-03-07 11:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋