We have both remarried but now he and his new wife are lying to my son about me and telling him that he can't ever come to live with me. My daughter is also unhappy living with them. I originally gave custody to my ex-husband because of a terminal illness diagnosis but that was 10 years ago and now I'm doing fine (AND I WANT MY BABIES BACK!!!)
2007-03-07 10:58:23 · 15 answers · asked by SodaLicious 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, I can't currently afford a lawyer but I am taking steps to bring action in court representing myself. The ex put both my children on medication (for ADHD with my son (13), and my daughter (14) is now on Prozac.
2007-03-07 11:20:33 · update #1
I would go back to court, and ask for a change of custody.
Prozac is NOT recommended for children under 18, it has been known to cause suicidal thoughts, this is clearly said on the TV commercials for that crap, call Child Protective Services!!
2007-03-07 11:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this issue is to use a paralegal service or a service that you pay the fees on a monthly basis. Also children (family) court can be handled on your own but you never want to go against an attorney on your own. Having someone represent you is the best way to go about it. I think that also if you are in a union seek their help. Most unions have legal professionals that can help union members at cheaper rates. Check out all your resources and the best thing for you is that the kids are old enough to speak for themselves also. Maybe you can jointly protest the custody arrangement with your children. I think the courts will be more helpful then!
2007-03-14 15:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by DePressed08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child services to obtain info on getting custody granted. Hire a lawyer. Get your proof & records of your recovery. It's all up to the judge after that. Sometimes we may be able to prove the other as unfit as well. If both parents are unfit, the children will be placed in Foster Care.
2007-03-07 19:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your children about how they feel and where they feel they should be. Most states allow a child as young as 13 to decide which parent they want to live with. Have your son document the things said to him (and have his sis to the same) and bring it all to court. There is a slim chance that you might be able to do this without a lawyer.
2007-03-08 01:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better off looking for a lawyer that you can afford or at the very least, getting started with the help of a paralegal and then seeing a lawyer that you can afford. You will have a hard time representing yourself and blame yourself if you lose.
2007-03-13 21:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you must feel...I got divorced 6 yrs ago and gave him custodial custody..i do however get them half the week...I wish I wouldnt have now..I have 2 daughters and they both want to come live with me..Its a hard battle to regain custody..You basically have to prove the custodial. parent unfit..its not all about what the kids want or what will make them happy..my oldest daughter is on antidpressents bcos of her situation there...the judicial system just sucks that way
2007-03-07 19:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have cps check out that house. I am sure they can direct you on what steps you can take to get your kids back. Also you need to know that since your children are not babies the court will listen to there request on which parent they want to live with.
2007-03-14 16:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THEY ARE ACTUALLY TELLING LIES,AND IT IS DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KIDS,THEN THAT IS A MATTER FOR THE COURTS. THIS IS CALLED 'PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME'.THEY ARE TRYING TO ALIENATE YOUR CHILDREN FROM YOU.THE COURT COULD LEVY A PUNISHMENT.PLUS,THIS IS IN YOUR BENEFIT IF YOU DECIDE TO PURSUE CUSTODY. IF SO,GET AN ATTORNEY FAMILIAR WITH THIS.DON'TGET JUST ANY ATTORNEY AS MOST ARE NOT EXPERTS IN THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR.ALSO,HAVE CHILDREN ANALYZED FOR THIS. IF IT IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING,YOU MAY NOT HAVE TO WAIT FOR A CUSTODY HEARING.THE COURT MAY GRANT TEMPORY CUSTODY UNTIL FURTHER EVALUATION.
BEING THIS ILLNESS WAS 10 YEARS AGO,I ASSUME THE CHILDREN ARE OF LEGAL AGE TO DECIDE WHICH PARENT THEY WANT TO LIVE WITH.CONSULT AN ATTORNEY ON THIS BEFORE DOING ANYTHING.
2007-03-07 19:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by bob a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to find a lawyer and go to court for shared custody. Congratulations on your recovery!
2007-03-07 19:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer threw legal aid and go to court try your best to get custody of your kids show proof about your past illness so you won't be acused of neglecting your kids
2007-03-14 16:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋