In my last question I asked, "Something really horrible happened to me today...how do I get the images from the incident out of my head? :'(" and one of the answers was to talk about it...so here's what happened...maybe letting it out in this question to hear other people views on how to handle it will help me...
I go to the bookstore every wednesday morning. There is this one black homeless guy that walks around. While waiting for the booksamillion to open one wed. morning he started talking to me. I felt kind of bad. I didn't mind talking to him really because I think it made him feel better. Anyways, I saw him again this morning near the bookstore and his came up and hugged me and lightly kissed me on the head! I have OCD (he smelled really bad too) and went into the bathroom and just about threw up! That little incident made me feel so sick!!! Now it keeps playing my mind! Ahh! Get away from me you FREAK!!!!! What do I do??????????????????????????????????????????????? :'(
2007-03-07 10:55:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I can see why you're upset - a perfect stranger came up to you and kissed you on the head, which was unwarranted, sudden and surprising, and unappreciated. I would be a bit appalled and nauseated myself, especially with his stench. Right now, the memory is strong in your mind because it just occurred and we have the tendency to replay recent memories, especially particularly positive or negative ones. As time passes and you get engaged in other areas of your life, focusing your thoughts on those events, this memory will gradually weaken. You probably will never forget it, and will recall it at times, but it won't be quite as vivid as it is now. This is provided you aren't continuously exposed to the same man and bookstore, which will serve as cues to recall the event.
Perhaps you might want to find a different bookstore - a fresh spot uncorrupted by bad memories - or a new route that avoids running into this man. If you can't avoid bumping into him when you go to this bookstore, and don't want to find a new bookstore, perhaps you can find a different day/time to go when he won't be there. Sorry to hear about what happened!
2007-03-07 11:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by SeaSquirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 12:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing is just to avoid seeing him again. Try to go to another bookstore or go at a time where he is not there.
2007-03-07 11:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid situations where hugging happens. If he starts to hug you tell him you don't like that!! You don't know him that well.
2007-03-07 11:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by j.wisdom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋