I met this guy in college, and then couple of years ago we had a brief relationship and got pregnant. Since he didn't want to get together with me and assume patternity (he's already a single parent of a 13 year old), I wasn't ready mentally and financially to have a baby;I decided to get an abortion. it was very difficult decision and I went into a deep depression....plus I had complications, which I almost died. He never called me again not even to find out if I was ok and since I didn't call either, we lost contact for two years; until last month that he got my email address through my other friend (that doesn't know about this whole deal) and he offered me a job.
I hated him for being a coward and not taking responsibility for his actions and for not showing any feelings for my well being. he's asking me what have I been up to...I didn't answer his email. now my other friend is asking me for lunch and there is a possibility that this guy will be there. what to do?
2007-03-07 10:35:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to miss this lunch, because it's a way for me to prospect for another job, but at the same time I don't want to let my other friends to find out about the situation since is no one's business. I just don't want to show lack of class when I see, yet I want to show that I don't want anything to do with him.
2007-03-07 10:37:12 · update #1
Then you go to this luncheon and treat him with little more than you would a new acquaintance or someone you used to know. Don't ever get mixed up with him again. He is a B****** for not caring about your abortion. If he tells your friend, such is life. Just be classy and rise above it. The past is gone and now you are looking forward to a better future that you are making happen for yourself. You are strong, I can tell. Good luck.
2007-03-07 10:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With the baggage from the past still lingering in your mind, do you think it's wise to associate with this man even on a business level? I think you would be better off forgetting about this opportunity and move on with your life in another direction away from him. I don't believe you could ever put this behind you far enough to avoid it causing a severe conflict in your job. Do yourself a favor and tell your other friend you are busy. I could see you regretting what will happen if you pursue this idea.
2007-03-07 19:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let him know that you want nothing to do with him by being completely professional. Don't talk to him about anything personal. Don't talk to him privately. You definitely don't want to get a job working for him either.
2007-03-07 18:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to the lunch, and he happends to be there just say hi and smile, don't talk to him outside of group there for lunch, don't talk about your past. treat him in a professional manner. i hope this helps.
2007-03-07 18:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋