I am so scared and so hurt...has any wives had husbands stationed in afghanistan or even camp salerno? Were you able to talk on the internet and could they call? I am so worried about him and any experiences with this issues would be great. he just left this morning and i am already panicing about how much i will miss him. So please anyone that has had a husband in afghanistan and in camp salerno or any experience please help!!! thanks
2007-03-07 10:23:51 · 7 answers · asked by alexandra82387 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure there are many wives of soldiers in your same situation. Contact the local base near you and see if there is a support group for wives/family members of deployed personnel. The military is really good about stuff like that, and getting together with others in your same boat will make it much easier on you.
My son is currently in Korea, so I don't know exactly what you're feeling, however, I do understand. It's very hard having him so far away, and in your case, in a combat zone. I keep all our service men and women in my prayers, hopefully so does everyone else!
Hang in there!
2007-03-07 10:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just breathe and relax hon. Take up a new hobby and write him letters everyday. If he can get internet and a pc then he will be able to email you more then likely. Make sure to send each other lots of pics , I do not know about phone calls though. Is there any way you can find out from some of his superior officers or the place he is locally out of and ask them what and how he can contact you from over there. Hope this helps some. You will also want to keep busy and go shopping here and there and have fun. Also join a ladies group at a local church and make new girlfriends to do fun things with on a regular basis.
2007-03-07 18:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(((HUGS))) and hang in there. It's totally normal for you to feel this way. If your command had a pre-deployment night they probably covered the emotional cycles of deployment so that you'd know what you're feeling is normal. If your command or Family Readiness Group (FRG) didn't have a pre-deployment meeting or you didn't get to go you might find the information at http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/MOS/home.aspx. They're a great resource either on the web or by phone and have people available 24/7.
To answer your questions you might want to look for a support group. In person with your FRG is the best because then you have people who are near you to help you (and you help them) through this. I run the online group for our FRG and we try to meet monthly even when our guys are home to keep freindships up for that next deployment.
Check Yahoo! Groups or MySpace or anyplace else you network for groups either by the base you're out of, or the area of afghanistan he's in or your branch of service. You can also join the forums at http://www.military.com/Community/Home/1,14700,GENERAL,00.html or http://www.cinchouse.com/. Just be careful what information you share. Remember the Operations Security rules and standard personal security, too.
If you don't connect with other military wives, make sure you have personal connections somewhere. Work, church, school, playgroups...anyplace where you can find personal support and help. You're going to find it much easier if you have it.
Take a deep breath and stay busy. The more you accomplish the better you'll feel and the more you'll have to put in your letters and e-mails to your DH. Remember, one day turns into two and two into 4 and finally you're through them all and he'll be home again.
2007-03-07 19:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay calm and try to relax, he was trained for this. What you are feeling is normal. Try to contact his FRG (family readiness group) through his unit. There are many of spouses going through what you are right now and what you need is someone that you can talk to that is in your husbands unit or close by that is in the same situation. He will call when he can and write when he is able. My prayers are with you. I hope that the time flies for you to. Go out and join a club that always helps things along and you can make new friends. ( oh and the FRG should be able to give you all the details about where they are at and how you can talk to him)
2007-03-07 18:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jan R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's gonna be hard because you have so much going on inside, but you have to try and calm yourself. I'm sure it would tear your husband up inside to know that you were worring about him that way. I know that your husband has one if not many reasons why he went over there and you have to try and be as strong as you can for him and let him know that you support him. That doesn't always mean that you like what he's doing or where he's going, but you have to support him. Believe it or not, he's probably missing you just as much or more. I know that nothing I'm saying right now makes anything all better, but all you can do is talk to him whenever you can and pray that he comes back to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.
2007-03-07 18:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't have any one in the service but i did year's ago when my brother was in the army and in a war in Vietnam that was in sixties at the time i was worried about him and grieving for our mother too that passed away she had cancer so ill pray for both of you hope he returns home safe
2007-03-11 17:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he can talk to you, he will... try to keep your spirits up and be patient
2007-03-07 18:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋