the marriage was sour for last 4 years.he removed my name in the account without letting me know.when i went on vacation myself, i cheated with another guy.someone notify my husband about it.he did not believe it just rumors, when i came back from vacation i told him have a boyfriend there, it was true.my husband wants to work things out. i told him i lost my love for him because we do not have any kids, differents goal, we have nothing in common his regilion is different from mine, i cannot go to his temple i do not feel comtable.his not listening to me not going work out it's my mistake and my fault.i need my boyfriend in my life his my regilion same background. should my husband go counseling? he need to get over me.
2007-03-07 10:09:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i did not tell my boyfriend that i was married,he taught it was a live in boyfriend.
2007-03-07 10:13:47 · update #1
Leave him and go have fun. Life is not worth living if you are not having fun and enjoying yourself.
2007-03-07 10:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
Seems to me that you found someone that has the same common ground but is he just someone that you fell back on because you know your marriage was heading its way out the door. You need some kind of reasoning to say goodbye to your husband. Take some time and think... you were in one relationship and now headed towards another. Finish this one first see if there is anything that you can do to fix it if not then try it out alone til your ready. I went through something similar recently and found that I was able to fix things with my husband granted this is a 20 yr relationship with kids involved. I guess all Im saying is think before you move onto another man.
2007-03-07 18:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ouch this is a bad situation...and about to just get worse. You need to sit with you husband and tell him everything that has happened, why it has happened, and what you are wanting out of the relationship with him...(compatibility, love, support...etc) and then listen to him and his reasons. If the two of you decide that you will work it out, then you will first off need to get away from the "other guy" and give your marriage the full attention that it deserves. If you both come to a decision that you both are not compatible, then and only then should you BOTH go down to the local courthouse and get a divorce. You should have never had an affair on your husband you should have tried every option of making it work and then if not asking for the divorce. Hope that has helped you out. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-07 18:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What is up with everyone cheating?????
If you were really over him you should have been honest with him from the get go. Maybe things would have worked out b4 you cheated.
Right now you think you r on top of the world with this new man, but soon you will find out that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
In other words What goes around come around.....
2007-03-07 18:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Natural 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband that you want a divorce and tell him why.Tell your boyfriend the truth -that you are in an unhappy marriage. You need to straighten out your life and take some positive action to make it better.
2007-03-07 18:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by prettywoman_eks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I suggest you seek advices from counselling first and see if they could help. Then after you are more stable in your emotion, you try to get your husband to go with you. You both have to hear each other out so counselling is the best solution.
2007-03-07 18:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cheating on him wasn't the answer to your loveless marriage. If you felt this way, the thing to have done was to seek counsling for the both of you and try to work it out.
If you knew the religion situation wasn't going to work than you shouldn't have married him.
2007-03-07 18:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ether Fumes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So religion is a priority in a relationship to you? Ironic that you were willing to break a commandment to justify one and p!$$ all over another. I think you're the one who needs counseling. How selfish.
2007-03-07 18:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by rtanys 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You committed adultery in that act. You should have sued for divorce, get divorced and go back to your boyfriend. Go ask for forgiveness from God and then from your husband
2007-03-07 18:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by perboil 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do whatever you want, just don't ever again pretend that you will honor the commitments and promises that you make. Make sure your new boyfriend understands that your lack of respect for marital boundaries will always mean that you can't be trusted. I'm sure he will figure it out on his own, however.
2007-03-07 18:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just need to move on. You have just given us all the excuses in the book and then started blaming your husband!!! Hello, move on, you are not interested in him anymore.
2007-03-07 18:13:40 · answer #11 · answered by loulou 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋