For awhile my husband had been acting distant toward me. We don't talk much, he's always working so we barely see each other. He wants my son & I to move in w/my parents & he knows I don't want to. I have started being the one to be distant now. It's not b/c I want to be rude but my feelings are hurt plus I think he is cheating on me. I don't have much to say to him b/c of that. I don't want to confront him about my suspicions & the fact he's been lying to me until after my son & I move out b/c I feel like I don't know him anymore & I don't know how he'd react if I confront him. Anyway, now that I have started being distant he starts with this whole, "I really miss you & love you" bit that he really wasn't doing before. He calls me during the day at work to "make sure everything is ok w/me." And to tell me "I really wish you were here right now" & stuff like that. Why is he doing this once I become distant & when I know he has lying about where he is on most weekends?
2007-03-07 09:59:37 · 17 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is basically making us move since I fought it and now we are still having to do it. Why does he want to act all sweet now and say he misses me and stuff. If he really misses me then he shouldn't say he is at work on the weekends when he is obviously doing other things also according to our bank statements. And also if he misses me then why am I having to move instead of us finding a cheaper apartment? Which I suggested and even found some and he shot that idea down and said that cheaper ones must not be good apartments and that a cheaper place won't help. (when he says we are moving to save money)
2007-03-07 10:04:23 · update #1
HELLO!!! He is cheating! You have a child to think about! Don't allow yourself to settle for this crap! Move on while you are young!
He is afraid that you are seeing someone and wondering if that is why you are being distant. All of a sudden when you don't need him anymore he wants to become important to you again. GAMES!! Don't you deserve better than that?? I'm not real clear on the whole idea of him wanting you and your son to move out? What kind of man puts his wife and children out of the house! He sounds like a total loser!! You should really get smart and beat him at his own game by moving on with your life. Do what you can to better yourself, (school, job...etc) and make a better life for you and your child!
2007-03-07 10:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be stressed out about something or depressed. He also could be unhappy about something in the marriage or even cheating or being unfaithful on you. It is best to ask him why he is being so distant. See what he has to say. If you feel he is not being faithful and you cannot trust him then move out and seperate for at least the time being. I also suggest you both go to marriage counseling as well.
2007-03-07 18:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yikes. maybe u should suggest to him marrige counceling? did he tell you why he wants you to move in with your parents? yah it does sound like he is cheating. you should confront him, definately. you really need more communication. i would make sure you set aside some time to talk to him about where your marriage is heading. it sucks to be wrong about suspecting cheaters, but if you don't have trust, that is even a bigger issue. also, be safe and use a condom until you are sure he is not cheating or he gets tested for std's. you should probably get tested as well, just in case.
2007-03-07 18:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lot of unresolved issues on both parts - why not try Relate counselling to get the communication going and find out how to resolve your differences.
2007-03-07 18:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by no_fool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he feels guilty, but is happy he is getting his way, so he can afford to be a little nice to u now that u are leaving. men will get distant then they are cheating on u. it is almost as if the person we fell in love with isn't there anymore. its just guilt, but that doesn't mean he is going to stop cheating on u.
2007-03-07 18:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seem like he's bipolar? Love you one minute and a stranger the next. Maybe you're right. I would confront him but not in a nasty way and watch his response. If he's overly defensive most likely you hit the nail on the head!
2007-03-07 18:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Dwana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husban is acting like he is cheating on you and your son. You need to find out if there is another person in his life that is taking the place you once shared. My bet is he has another relationship going on and he is ready to move on to the other person:(
2007-03-07 18:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ron4260 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was stressed out, and took it out on you, i would say go on a date with him alone, see how he treats you, go somewhere that he goes, go somewhere that's on that bank statement, see if he acts like he has never been there, or if he treats you different there
test him, make him earn your love, but if he is being stressed, and he is acting OK at those places then tell him to relax and chill out
2007-03-07 18:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm did he loose some money some how? wants to fix it with out and arguement? like just taking charge and u trust him? maybe hire a private investigator and does his parents know? the truth will soon come out it always does.
2007-03-07 18:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am doing this to my wife as well... I am just trying to see if the distance is bothering me . To help me see if its what i really want.... we are now doing counseling. I hate the fact that the distance doesn't bother me... something inst right
2007-03-07 18:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋