I heard a statistic that 80% of couples who move in together before getting married, end up getting divorced by the second year of marriage.
2007-03-07 09:54:24 · 20 answers · asked by greennchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Statistics like these are perpetrated by the far religious right in order to subdue premarital sex. This issue was brought up at a religious retreat my fiance and I were required to attend in order to be married in the Catholic Church.
If you think about it reasonably, it doesn't make sense. Assuming you are currently living with your spouse or fiance, think about the huge change that made in your relationship. You went from seeing each other when you wanted to - when you were both prepared to be around each other and in 'dating' mode - to seeing each other every day. You see the bad moods, you see the bad habits, but most importantly, you see the REAL person.
Can you imagine making a realization like this after marrying that person? Living together and dating are so far from the same thing that it should almost be a requirement that you venture into cohabitation before marriage. I think it would be safe to say that the proposed statistics are probably the opposite of the facts.
2007-03-07 10:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by cheeto_sandwich 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can hear any kind of statistics you want, just put your ears in a couple dozen different converstations.
Statistics can be skewed. I lived with my first husband for two years, was married to him for ten, separated for 6. Lived with my second husband for 4 years, have been happily married for 17.
Like the stat where 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Just aint true. There is a certain percentage of the population who marry and remarry and remarry and remarry, you know the people who get married 4, 5, 6 times. Every time one of those people remarry it falsely inflates that 50/50 stat.
Take a stat class, you'll find out never to listen to any stats claimed on the news or in mags, they are created to grab your attention, that's all.
2007-03-07 10:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently living with my boyfriend, and it has made us even closer than ever.
Living together, you are going to have to make some big adjustments most likely. If you wait until your married, and one of you isnt able to deal with these, its too late to just "break up" or "take a break" most likely it will end in divorce.
If you live together before you get married, then you know that you can put up with each other in one house without killing each other.
But you also dont want to move in together too early. Wait until BOTH of you think it would be a good idea. but weather it's before or after marrige, hopefully if you love each other then it will work out no matter when you move in together
2007-03-08 04:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just because those that dont end up getting a divorce a year later! Just kidding. I chose to live with my man before maryying him, that way I could know for sure if I could handle his quirks and the way he does things. In all relationships there are ups and downs. I would much rather take that than being with someone who was exactly the same as me!
I say yes live with your boyfriend before marriage, although some might suggest that it ruins you, ahem, honeymoon. I think it makes it better because youl already know how to make your partner happy and you can get more done!
2007-03-07 10:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by monkeysgirl04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with living together or not. It has everything to do with being willing and able (On both parties parts.) to honor their commitments, to practice love as defined in the Bible, to not be selfish, to do what you should do even when it isnt easy.
These are the things that are lacking and which cause most of the divorces. The liberals ways, the not caring about what is actually right and moral but what you like, feel, can justify, the not being willing to honor the vows of marriage.
2007-03-07 10:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've have heard that people who live together first get divorced more than those who don't. I had not heard the numbers you quoted. I don't know if it true, but in the end you must do what is best for you and your situation.
My husband and I did not live together prior to marriage. It was the right thing for us.
2007-03-07 10:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well my parents lived together before they got married (don't tell my grandma) They lasted 23 years! I lived with my boyfriend, we are married almost 5 this year.... so I think that statistic is totally wrong.
2007-03-07 10:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by loulou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out of the 8 people I can think of who moved in with their boyfriend before getting married, only one of them ended up marring their boyfriend.
2007-03-07 10:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and I will tell you why. I have been living with my boyfriend for 3 years and he still says "no" to marriage. Why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free? I am miserable and want out of my relationship....and I will never co-habitate again!
2007-03-07 11:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lived with him seven years and been married to him for 20. Statistics aren't always right now are they?
2007-03-07 09:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋