2day is my b-day but....?

Question

I don't feel very happy 2day and haven't for awhile now,maybe cause some things I had been hoping on didn't happen.I was hoping to get into fitness competitions but things keep coming up that slow me down,I told a woman I loved since childhood how I felt and was shot down,I haven't had anyone I can really talk to about things and I just feel so empty and unfulfilled.Any ideas on what I could or should do cause I feel like theres no one for me out there and I feel like I'm becoming more and more distant from everything plus I just wanna disappear?

Answer 1

Sounds like you are on a roll. It also sounds like you were already on this roll when you approached this woman. Any idea why you got the cold shoulder? Would it not be better to try that after the fitness competition? Some women prefer a slightly different approach. But all in all I know that people want to enjoy themselves, so that is where I would put my attention. You could be a ten or you could be a one on any given day. Nobody enjoys a one except another one, so why bother. Be a ten and go for another ten. You can do it.
When it comes to relationships you have to realize one thing that doesn't apply normally. You cannot very easily create in the experience of another. For this reason you will have more success saying to the universe. Here is the description of the person I want. I want her/him to look just like so and so. An inch taller would be fine. I want this person to have these qualities...patient like my mom, good sense of humor like my aunt Alice, sharp dresser like such and such an actress/actor, have a good job with lots of free time for travelling, likes to go dancing, etc. etc. etc. as many details as you can think of that you would like. Writing them down is even better. Just for fun stick your list in a special container. Now get ready for this magical person. Start preparing for him/her and continue to do this for as long as you have. It might be a week, one or two months, depends on how much emotion (positive) and expectation you stick into your life. You should act like it is a sure bet. I have helped others start to think this way and it has always worked and amazingly at that. On your mark.........

Answer 2

Aw man I know exactly how you feel I take meds for depression and it keeps me pretty content and able to deal with the ups and downs of life but just remember you are never alone your family loves you...I thought for the longest time that happiness was having a man in my life, but it caused a lot of hurt and disappointment thinking that way...and I learned that true happiness comes from within I don't want to sound too corny but felt you needed someone there for you...so here I am and by the way have a Happy Happy BIrthday This too shall pass : ))

Answer 3

Hi. First of all, happy birthday. Second of all, it sounds like you are becoming/are depressed. If you've been feeling this way nonstop for a few weeks, I would recommend you going to a doctor and telling them about this. They might prescribe anti-depressants for you and this would be a lot better than what you might go through in the future. I would go there as soon as you can. And, I know you're going through a hard time, but there's a light at the end of the tunnel. I know it doesn't seem like it and you might not know what it is, but there is. Trust me, I've been there. ^_^ Have a happier birthday. Just keep your head up and smile.

Answer 4

Belated Happy birthday! I understand how you feel.
In my experience, setbacks are just there to magnify the effect of a WIN you will have in the future on those same areas.


Happiness is a state of mind, it may sometimes depend on
outside stimulation but most of the time, it comes from within , from your own admiration of yourself, your being. If you don't admire yourself how can you be happy? Given that others admire you but you know you're doing something unethical,
you will find it difficult to be happy. You will feel empty and unfulfilled.. See, the opposite of being empty is being full. Full of what you may ask? Admiration to yourself because you're
true to yourself , you take responsibility, you respect yourself, the environment & others. So, you are proud of yourself, you become happy.

You said you want to disappear. I just want to ask if you can really disappear. If the "You" that you are referring to is your spirit, well, it leaves your body when you die and go somewhere else. Your body on the other hand, transforms into another element. That's not you, that's your body. So, you, the spirit just travels in another dimention. You are still there...you can never disappear, you can just be unaware.


In Awe & in Bliss,
janaki

Answer 5

Happy Birthday Dude.

1. There really are plenty of fish in the sea. But
2. The fish don't make you happy... you make you happy.
3. Being a happy, confident guy attracts the fish.
4. If you want to be in fitness competitions, don't let things slow you down, make today day one again and plan to kick butt in those upcoming competitons. A birthday is a good day to start fresh.

Peace

Answer 6

Hey, I'm sure you're a great person. I know you feel helpless and empty right now, but if you give up now you'll never find your other half. I thought that I had found my other half and married him then 6.5 years and 3 kids later I found my true other half and no option is a good one because I love them both and made a promise to the one I married. So, maybe the one that shredded your heart has made way for your true love to find you. Please don't give up hope. And by the way HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

Answer 7

happy b-day,im sorry you feel bad.it sucks liking or loving someone that doesnt feel the same way.you will find someone when your time comes.it may be tomarrow or maybe a year,but hang in there.do something that makes you happy,go somewhere with a friend,or just talk to us here.its never to late to start the fitness thing,you just have to make yourself do it.what do you look like,maybe we could give you pointers on maybe hair,styles that would get attention,you may be looking in the wrong places for a companion.anyways,good luck and hold your head high,there are alot worse things than being single.

Answer 8

Happy birthday , to you.
Happy birthday , to you.
Happy birthday dear Jugg!
Happy birthday to you.

Find an inner peace in knowing that all of us here at yahoo celebrate your birthday with you. you are not alone. You could go to your local church and even if they are not open for services you could find the pastor and tell him how you feel. Or go directly to God and pray for inner peace. Go to the library and browse for a book....there will be other lonely people there to talk with. you must make/take the initiative to reach out. There are also hot lines to call....and they will listen with out judging you. Everyone needs to vent their frustrations. Don't hold it inside and let it eat your soul . Get out of the house and go shopping and break into a conversation with someone. Be cool and friendly. Things will get better but you must help us help you.

Answer 9

First: Congratz on making it through another year! I hope your new one will be better.

Now, pull your head out and get on with life! Stop hoping and wishing for things, do what's needed to live and concentrate on things which actually mean something in day to day living. All those other things will fall into place when and where they're supposed to and in the manner they're supposed to. Until then just be patient and aviod getting yourself so depressed.

Answer 10

Happy Birthday, and Good for you for telling that girl how you felt! My friend of 15 years recently told me he was in love with me. I didn't feel the same. He felt embarrassed and worthless. But I didn't see him that way at all. Even though I didn't feel the same, I truly was FLATTERED that he told me he was in love with me. She is not in anyway disgusted or unhappy to hear what you had to say. Keep your head held high, you did the right thing!