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Question

My ex bf who i s29 yr old teacher, was very depressed and very suicidal. When I was with him, I told him he needed to see a professional.He only wanted my help. He would tell me over and over he was going to do it, that he bought Cyanide over the interenet, he was going to go thru with it before summer vacation was over. There were times he would hang up the phone and not answer, I didnt know if he was alive or dead. He told me never to call the police, because if he saw the police he would do it right then and there. I went through many nights with anxiety, panic attacks. Well, the reason he felt this way was becuase he had a child w/ a one night stand he wanted nothing to do with, he was ashamed. I helped him come to terms, for him to leave me for the mother of his child. Not only that, he talked about me and devalued me as to who I was to him. He told me if I need help getting through the breakup, to see a pychologist. I have, because, I feel like I lost it. Everything he ever told

me was a lie. I feel he messed with my head so badly, I dont know who I am anymore. If I had walked away and he really did kill himself, I wuldnt have been able to deal, thats why I helped him. I am aware he mentally abused me in some form. But its been 8 months and I cant stop t hinking about what he did to me. I get so angry and cry alot. Its effected my life in many ways. How to cope? Please help.

Answer 1

This man is a manipulator. Men and women like this use different forms of manipulation to control you. They are not capable of loving someone. They equate love with power and control, and honey, that ain't it. Try to understand that this man does not love, is not worth your pain and that you are blessedly free of him to pursue a good and happy life. And feel sorry for the woman and child he is with now. He's pulling the same garbage on them.

Answer 2

# "If you have tried to do something and failed, you are vastly better off than if you had tried to do nothing and succeeded. You must never regret what might have been. The past that did not happen is as hidden from us as the future we cannot see." Richard Martin Stern

# " Failure is the foundation of success and success is the lurking place of failure..."S.Maugham

# If there were no clouds, we shoudnot enjoy the sun.

# "At some point in time we all have to break but in the end we're much stronger in the broken parts."

# "What appears to be the end may really be a new beginning."

# If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

# "For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something."

# "Nothing can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul." - Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1891

# "At some point in time we all have to break but in the end we're much stronger in the broken parts."
# 'Failure is not falling down, it is not getting up again.' Mary Pickford

Answer 3

Unless you have the patience to simply accept what happened, learn from it and wait for the effects of time to take away most of the pain, then you should indeed consider seeing a therapist to help you come to terms with the anger, frustration and agony he caused. Keep in mind however that at no time did he force you into anything. You knew he was dysfunctional and for WHATEVER reason decided to stay with him. It takes two people to exist in a non-functional relationship.

Answer 4

ok, first of all, you have to realize that there are people out there who are only out for themselves. they could care less what happens to anyone besides themselves. he was never going to commit suicide in the first place. my father has been playing that same game with my family for years. if someone really wants to kill themselves, they do. my father says he's going to do it all the time. it's been years and he's still here. multiple suicide threats are an attention plot. basically, he used you. i know it's hard. i had a guy use me for a lot of things over the course of 4 years. you just have to pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and know that you are better off without him.

Answer 5

Don' warry, be hoppy!!!!