I've read some other questions about this but I didn't really find what I was looking for. The only way I've ever been able to orgasm is through a vibrator but only on the clitoris. I've never had an orgasm during intercourse or otherwise with actual penetration. I guess I should figure out how to have an orgasm on my own with "something" before I could during sex? Does a lot of lube help? I would like to be able to have an orgasm during sex in any position! Some serious suggestions would really help me.
2007-03-07 09:22:06 · 13 answers · asked by Amanda 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i think if you ride the person it will do alot.. in that position you can get an orgasm on your own in a way but with his penis insterted. your clit needs to be wet in order for it to feel good. it also needs to be rubbed and when it is wet and when its rubbing against the top of his penis it will feel even better when his penis is in you. When it is in you it makes the rubbing of the clit more hot and you just moving in circles makes if feel even better..
i hope that helps
2007-03-07 09:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Yhpargotohp 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I'm the other way around. I tried using vibrators and other such sex toys to orgasm, but none of them work for me. I can only orgasm while having sex, and I have to be on top...I don't know if that sounds weird, but that seems to be the only time that I've actually orgasm'd.
Lube doesn't really help with having an orgasm...it's all about the "spot" that the penis touches, and a lot of women actually reach orgasm when the penis hits different spots, though the clit is the most common.
Since u know that the clit is the spot that penetrates ur orgasm, try movin' ur body along with the man's so that his penis hits that area.
Don't give up!!!
2007-03-07 17:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went for years only being able to have orgasm's that way, but when I met the man I am with now, he would ride me and put my *** on a pillow while he was doing - the orgasm's are great! Now I can have a orgasm from just about any position that we do it in. They say that size don't matter, but really he is a lot larger then anyone that I have ever been with, I am not sure if that has anything to do with it or not
2007-03-07 17:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women can't orgasm through intercourse alone. You will probably need to stimulate your clitoris while having sex. You can also try being on top, that seems to be the best position for trying to have an orgasm through intercourse.
2007-03-07 18:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by aqx99 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am the same way but i dont use vibrator to have an orgasm. i let my bf eat me and then i have one. so i gues i can only have one by clitoris stimulation. i have been sexually active for 4 years and never had orgasm during intercourse plus i have heard alot of women are in the same predicament. i havent heard of any female who once started having orgasms after so long a wait. but i am envious of women who can have it during intercourse. i still wish i can have one. gettinn more wet wont make u have an orgasm for sure. some women have to go long hours to achieve one. try having longer sex. it never happened to me tho when i did try it.
2007-03-07 17:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by CaribbeanChica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you can achieve orgasm with a vibrator......during intercourse some guys think that women can just achieve orgasm through intercourse....like it all comes natural. But in reality we need more stimulation, for example.....if he's behind you...he can stimulate you by touching your clitoris....also kissing or caressing the breasts help a lot. Or I know you can't really be depending on this but they have some clit stimulators that guys put on their fingers and stimulate you that way.
2007-03-07 18:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oral and sex toys help. But I figured out a way to orgasm during sex by missionary style. But instead of putting your legs in the air you put them down completely and open to be able to penetrate and by rubbing his pelvis against the clitoris, I have had orgasms that way. try it!! The vaginal opening feels tighter for him but its more work for the guy.
2007-03-07 18:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by lilirodal81 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might be difficult to have sex in any position without direct clitoral stimulation. In most regular positions, the clitoris isn't really affect, meaning one or the other partner is going to have to manipulate it manually. I guess it's possible to have an orgasm in any position, but the woman would have to be REALLY sensitive.
2007-03-07 17:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women have the same problem. I did, too.
I once bought a book for $13.95, "Five Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love: Female Orgasm Made Simple" by Claire Hutchins. Claire's $13.95 advice: just rub your clit during intercourse or have your partner do it.
DUH. It works
2007-03-07 17:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Use the vibrator during penetration. The first time my gf did this it was great. Her squirming and making all kinds of crazy noises really got me going also.
2007-03-07 17:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by squeaky 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋