i need advice on how i can keep my son away from our son. he is in the military we live in louisiana. i have wanted a divorce for a long time. i dont work because he literaltly wont let me work. he is so dishonest, lier, two faced, he is a jerk and lots of people hate him. people actually ask me why im still with him. he is really a bad man. i married him because i was homeless and pregnant with his baby. i regret ever marrying him. i dont have family to stay with if we do divorce but i can get housing back in our home town. also there is wic, and foodstamps. i know about all of that. i just wouldnt be able to support him right this second if we did divorce. well lucky us, he is getting deployed soon and i wanted all of this settled before he did. he obvisouly wont have any way to care for his baby in IRAQ. he is bad with our son anyways. like chid neglect, bad. really bad. waht can i do? i dont think i want to be with him anymore. i just want my life back.
2007-03-07 09:19:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first sentence----husband away from our son!!! sorry
2007-03-07 09:19:47 · update #1
what would JAG do for me?
by the way. he dosent want to give me power of attourny (spelling?) when he leaves for IRAQ. he will be gone for 18 months!! i cannot even renew the lease on the appartment without that! how selfish right? also he has will everything to his baby sister and not his son!
2007-03-07 09:27:26 · update #2
The military will see to it that your child is financially taken care of ...just put in a call to his First Sgt. If he is being deployed stay in the house and use that time while he is away to get yourself prepared to move on i.e. get a job, school. When your ready for the divorce seek alimony, (since you didn't work during your marriage) and child support (he needs to be responsible for his child)
2007-03-07 09:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definately go to JAG and they will help you es-
pecially getting financial support for your son.
Make sure you take the paperwork to show proof
that it is your husbands child. Does not matter if
he is deployed before you get things staightened
out as JAG will help you. Also see a Chaplin and
explain the situation to him and he will get ahold of
the commander your husband and things can get
started from that stand point. Use your base
assests and you will get help. I know I am an ex
military for 22 yrs and I was in charge of 125 sol-
diers and dealt with many many divorce and
seperations. Make sure you have all documents
with you to include dependent I:D: card before you
file for anything. Good luck.
2007-03-07 21:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the first one to file for you to have control of the situation. You need to be able to serve him papers while he is here. If he goes over to IRAQ the courts will make you wait because he is out of country on military duty. His supervisors will just sign off stating he is doing his duty.
You might want to wait until after he is deployed especially if you are in military housing to give yourself some time to get a job and get some money put back. You can get legal aid help from the base to get a divorce. You need to look up at your base for help. They can walk you thru it. Also if your in the middle of a divorce, the military does allow you to stay in military housing until 6 months after the divorce is final so you can get on your feet.
2007-03-07 09:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until he deploys. Don't say anything about a divorce quite yet. Collect all the benefits while you can, and use this oportunity to save money, get a job, get back to school. He will be away for a year plus, so you will have plenty of time to get back on your feet, Once he returns, then you can drop him the news, or leave just before he comes back.
Good luck
2007-03-07 09:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
divorce military man
2016-02-01 02:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie JAG can only help military family very little. mostly what they handle is crime. If you can, do you know your husband CO? (commanding officer), if not go to the head of wives club where your husband works. (I'm a military wives as well,but navy), now all you must do is find the Ombudsman, they are the one that handle family when their husband are away, before your husband deployed, see if you can contact them of his CO, and when you do, tell that Officers whats going on with you and him. I know that he (C.O) will help you esp. if your husband is a bit abusive to you.
Don't waste no time because when he goes, you will loose all the rights. I know its a bit scarey and you feel hopeless but you must do what needs to be done while he still around............goodluck!!.if you need some help do let me know ok!!
2007-03-07 09:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what you got to do. All I'm saying is that before you get involve with someone else, make sure you got your game together (house, car etc)ok. Never depend on a man for anything. Have your own money so that he will never say I own you.
2007-03-07 09:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 sides to every story,,,, just wonder how much truth you are really telling,
something smells fishy to me.
Sounds like you hate him and are on a campaign to get as many people to agree with you as possible.
With out more info,
I would say you need to go to counseling, for you, and not try to screw over your husband and child.
2007-03-07 09:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
contact the jag office imediately oh and btw he cant leave it to his baby sister the child is his . the child has a right to half his estate regardless of whom the father left it too. if he is neglectfull you need to let the jag office know that . you also need child support from him . trust me the military is good about this thing.
2007-03-07 10:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
definetly divorce!!! do it for ur son and urself! go to the police and get a restraining order so he cant get near you or ur son..... then i would get a really good lawyer so u can get custody of ur son in the divorce. wat a jerk and some other things i cant say on here!!!!! ***hole! bast#@d!
2007-03-07 09:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by : ) !@#$%^&* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋