What would you do if your spouse cheated..would you want them in trouble?

Question

If you found out your military husband(or wife) was lying to you and probably cheating on you, would you try to get them in trouble with the government or not? I realize you would need evidence. What if you had evidence from a prior incident but no hard evidence of cheating now, just hard evidence of lying? Also, if your military spouse asked you and your kid to move away to save money for the family while he "worked" every weekend, but was really off spending money instead. Would you want them in trouble?

Answer 1

You have got to realize that if you get him/her in "trouble" essentially you will only be hurting yourself and your kids. Having your spouse be jobless is not going to benefit you in any way. What I would do, and did do (ex is not military but was sleeping with one of his employees in a factory) is leave him/her or kick him/her out and file for divorce. There is NO reason to make things ugly when you have children involved because it will scar them for the rest of their lives.

Answer 2

My military husband did cheat on me, and no, I did not get him in trouble. What real purpose would it serve? Do you realize the punishment he could face? That punishment will affect your life. If you stay with him, and his career supports your family, you will do nothing but ruin that. If you divorce him, and need alimony or child support, well, you can kiss that good bye, too. Plus, our military is far too busy and involved with real world issues to help the injured wife get her revenge on her cheating husband. Leave his command out of your personnal issues. Think about it, if you did the cheating and your civilian employer gave a d*mn about issues like that, like the military does, would you want your dirty laundry coming into your work space? Deal with this on your own.

Answer 3

Well, it would be a bad idea to make them lose their livelihood, especially if you are going to need child support or maintenance. Just get it over with and take what you can get, that will probably hurt more in the end anyway - most divorces usually have $ issues forever if there are children!

Answer 4

By all means.....do what you can to get them in trouble. Because as everybody knows, the more trouble you cause, and the more damage you cause, and the more misery you inflict, the better you'll feel. Oh yeah, revenge ALWAYS takes the pain away like it never even happened and NEVER makes you feel worse or question the person you've let your hate turn you into....

Answer 5

Are you any better than they are if you "tell" on them? If they are lying about something that has major consequences or is illegal than maybe you should tell someone. However, lies always have a way of coming out on their own. Don't set yourself up to look like the bad person. Let them be the bad person.

Answer 6

i would get my evidence and make him pay for what he had done. my first husband moved me and my daughter away once, me thinking we were saving money to get a place on, he wasn't saving money he just wanted me out of the way because he was cheating with one of the neighbors who lived in my mother in laws neighborhood where we lived. his goal was to get me away so he could pursue his girlfriend and get me out of the picture.get your prrof and divorce him. or divorce him and get your child support, whatever would serve u and your family the best.

Answer 7

I have had first hand experience with this, and there is only 2 ways they will actually get him/her "in trouble"....
You have to have pictures, or they have to admit it to the military.
Do you have either one of those?

Answer 8

military takes it VERY seriously. they will believe you if you can prove he has ever done it. i would in a heart beat. my husband is military adn is actually getting deployed soon, i want to divorce him though. yes i would want him to get the punishment he diserves. its adultry!!!

Answer 9

I 2nd happy cappy notion

Answer 10

Just get a divorce.