What would you do?

Question

My Godmother died Sunday and her funeral is Saturday but I have been on the waiting list for childcare for over a year and orentation is Saturday also now if I do not go to orentation I will get pushed to the bottom of the list again. I don't know where to go. By the way I did visit my godmother before she passed.

I live in dallas and the funeral is in new orleans and childcare won't reschudle

Answer 1

Sorry to hear about your Godmother. Here is my opinion, although hard to say as I don't have all the information, if the funeral and orientation are at the same time, perhaps you might like to ring whoever in charge of childcare placement up and explain the situation to her/him and at the same time find out more info about it, i.e. how long the orientation will take etc. ? At the same time, you would have an opportunity to express your concern of losing the placement if you were to be late and/or miss the orientation session altogether. I am sure they would understand and they should be able to suggest and/or advise you on what you could do. Good luck.

Answer 2

Just a thought - but what about talking to the daycare centre and asking about another time to speak to them and /or participate in the orientation. This is extenuating circumstances and they should understand.
I'd talk to the daycare first, and if it's a no go, then In my opinion, you can probably easily make either the wake or the funeral.
Other than that - isnt' there funeral home visitation before the funeral? Go to that. If you feel the need, explain to your godmother's closest relative (husband, son or whatever) that you are truly sorry and will do everything in your power to help him/them cope with their loss. They should understand how important this meeting is.

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ok dallas to NewOrleans. I guess you're not going to make it. If the daycare position is that important to you, you will have to bite the bullet, call the family of your godmother and explain things, and let the chips fall where they may. Be kind, loving, and ever so apologetic when you do - and mean it.

Answer 3

I would call the childcare people and tell them about the death, see if there is anyway you can re-schedule without going back to the end of the list -- I'm sure they can do something. But you'll regret not saying goodbye in the proper way for a long time if you don't go to the funeral especially if you were close -- and also check first to see if they totally interfere with eachother I mean you may be able to do both if you can be creative.

Answer 4

I'm assuming there is no other way to make up the orientation. Your god mother already passed so I would just send something like flowers and a card to the family. Or go visit the family after the funeral. I know how it to be on the waiting list for daycare and it's a pain. You gotta do what you gotta do.

Answer 5

go to orientation. Funerals are just an hour or so of your life. You don't want to lose a childcare spot over that! Find another way to pay your respects to your godmother. See if she was involved in any charities or something, and if so, make a contribution to one in her memory.

Answer 6

Hi, well if you really want to go isn't there someone else like the father of the child that can go to the orientation and just get all the information, I mean when someone passes away, it's unexpected so see if there is another responsible adult to sit in for you @ the orientation.

Sorry about your Godmother.

Answer 7

As much as you want to be in both places, you obviously can't. Your godmother will always be in your heart, and you know that she would understand...I would do the orientation.
Can you make it to the wake, or a portion of the funeral?? Otherwise, pay your respects at the cemetary...this way you can say your own personal goodbye...

Answer 8

Well it depends, seeing as how hard it is to get on a childcare list. I would try explaining to the family of the recently deceased that I can't go, and I would try to explain the situation to them as to why I can't make it, and I would send other members of my family to pay respects for me. I would also go on my own time to pay respect to my godmother. Seeing as it took over a year to get on the list, then rationally thinking it should be a top priority that you go to orientation (as cold as that may sound). I'm sure your Godmother would approve of you thinking of the welfare of your children, and like I said you can always go back to mourn for her on your own time.

Answer 9

Honey,if the woman loved you she would want you to get your child care. Your children are your top priority, so go to the orientation. Is there going to be a visitation the night before the funeral? If so go to that. Also, maybe if there's going to be a dinner somewhere after the funeral go could go to it. Otherwise, you are just going to have to miss it- you have to do what is best for your family. Peace to you.

Answer 10

Maybell,
I am certain that if you contact them someone could move your name on the list and exchange it with someone else's. This is a rather sudden happening and I am sure there is something they can do if they will. I hope it works out. I would certainly choose the funeral over the day care if you have to choose because of some relative's feelings. Have a great day.
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