Do men resent the strength that women now possess?

Question

Women are stronger in the work place
They are stronger in the home (they expect men to share the work load now)
They drink like men on nights out now
They are more likely to make the first move and have sex with whom and when they want it now

Are men threatend by this,? Do they feel emasculated by it ? or do they just miss being our `protectors` and the `man` of the house ?

Before you all get on your high horse I was poseing a question not stating my beliefs.
I actually think that a lot of women have took things too far and have undermined how important our roles have always been.

Answer 1

Well guess I do feel a little sad about it, not because I disbelieve in equal rights I fully support it in every way, way I see it we are all human with 2 arms and 2 legs and simply drawing a line straight down the middle and assigning rules to each is stupid.

But I like my ladies to be A lady, I find it so sad to go out and see women getting drunk sitting with their legs open directly asking for sex, it really just is not attractive! Not unless I was gay.

Thing is there has been a move, for women to do all the things that men do, as if this shows that they are just as good, and this has included our many weaknesses. Drinking, promiscuity. And I do not see this as strength it is weakness.

I love a strong woman, there is nothing better, but a woman who is strong enough to be a woman! Strong enough to be elegant, and lady like, to not give in to these weaknesses in society and have the strength to maintain her femininity.

As for at home, then damn right it simply depends on who has the time to be able to, if your both working then you should have enough money to hire a cleaner! I cook regularly and make pretty damn good meal! =P and have no problem cleaning, and dusting if I have time.

But nature can not be fought against, as much respect as I have for working mothers and the incredible strength they must have to balance such a life. I do worry for the well being of the child, for the first couple of years of it's life, I just believe that it needs it's mother! More then anyone else, Men are just too rough to handle a baby, and they cannot breast feed! Men are simply not born with the maternal instinct most women naturally posses! After a few years then I think play school can be very beneficial and the mother can have some free time and finally school, after that both parents can adapt how they will share out the tasks.

The thing that MUST be remembered is Men ARE Men and Women ARE Women, I know it's an obvious statement but it's very often forgotten. I mean would you date a guy that was just pathetic and weak, and no masculinity? We appreciate each other for what we are, it is dangerous to try to remove all boundaries.

And no I don't feel at all threatened or emasculated, only reason anyone would is if they weren't comfortable with who they were.

Answer 2

What an amazing array of unfounded assumptions.

1. Women are stronger in the work place? How so, since they still receive less pay for equal work? If you dont think they do, ask any feminist.

2. They are 'stronger in the home'? Could you possibly be more vague? What does that even mean? Expecting men to share the work load means they are stronger in the home than men?

3. They drink like men on nights out now? Where have you been? Women have been drinking until they're falling down drunk and vomiting in the gutter since prohibition was repealed over 60 years ago. It's nothing to brag about.

4. They are more likely to 'make the first move' and have sex when and with whom they want? Again, where have you been? It's been like that for about 40 years, they STILL mostly DONT make the first move, and to the extent that they do, it's a great relief to all the men out there who still have to make the first move 99% of the time.

Are we threatened? By what? Do we feel emasculated? No, not so much. Do we miss being 'protectors' and 'the man of the house' whatever that means? Not really, since we still are pretty much both. We WISH you would take more of the burden, but you don't seem ready. You just seem bitter, defensive, offensive and slightly irrational.

Answer 3

I think you are a little mixed up with your statements. Women are not stronger than men. They have achieved a lot over the past 40 years in gaining some type of equality but most women are still paid less than their male counterparts for doing the same job. Only the higher achievers gain the real equality of pay. Women are not stronger in the home, they have always been the dominant force at home because they run it. Men are expected to share in the home work load because most women now work full time and the home load is now more about equality with both partners working together to create a good working relationship. If you have one who tries to dominate the other then the relationship breaks down and a split occurs. There is no praise in women drinking like men now, that is nothing to crow about, it just shows that some women are dropping their standards and becoming ladettes instead of ladies. Usually women were more sensible in their alcohol intake because they saw what idiots men made of themselves when they were falling about vomitting. Women have nearly always made the choice of whom they are going to have sex with, they just let the man do his best to pick them up before they give it up. Initiating the first contact with the man does not change the scenario, it just hurries it up a bit and where is the fun in that. This has gone on for years, just more quietly from the woman's side. You are just making more noise about it. I think you will find that men do not feel threatened by it, they will be delighted that they don't have to put in so much effort to get you into bed. Emasculated no - they are of the same generation as you and have been brought up by Mother's who actually did there bit towards Women's Lib. Housework, most of them will have had working Mothers and probably had to do their share of chores and cooking. Protectors, Man of the House, they will always be that. Man is stronger than woman and will always try and protect them and if they are not Man of the House it will only be because women like you want to be Boss of the House and that is even worse. I presume you are still very young, by your comments, and certainly not in any type of serious relationship or you would not be making these silly statements. Enjoy your youth but when you sober up and start thinking about a family life you will have to re-evaluate or you are going to be a divorce statistic in pretty quick time.

Answer 4

I think it's great, the only area I find irritating are those women who don't understand that equality is meant to be just that.
A few seem to think 'it's our turn now' this will backfire on the most vulnerable women in our society if we are not careful.

Sometimes as an older male, I find adjusting to the changed expectations a little difficult. When your education was tailored to the expectations of the world in the 60's and 70's the 2007 reality still has some areas of friction.

When I look at the opportunities that my daughters will have I am thoroughly delighted.

I also see that young 'men' who are well educated are well adjusted and that is the most important measure , that the younger generations of men do not feel 'threatened' but comfortable with sharing the opportunities.

Answer 5

Call me nuts (YOU'RE NUTS), but on most accounts you speak about, men I know are not at all bothered by the situation. I prefer a woman who is her own individual, with a strong personality and intellect.

The one thing that does not seem to be true in what you say is that most women I know like the idea (on occasion at least) of having a guy as a physical protector/aide. On the aggregate, women are not as physically large or strong as men, and with the fear laden atmosphere we live in, I don't find it strange that some/most women like the security of a larger/stronger partner.
Again, I say that in the aggregate and/or anecdotal sense. I am sure there are plenty of women who could kick my butt and have no such feeling or need from male companionship.

But as to the rest, power to ya sisters.

Peace

Answer 6

The primary strength that women possess over men is the control of the discourse on gender, so that feminists have been able to "revise" the criteria of equality and ethics, to dictate biased intellectual methods, and to generally define "human", "person" and "reality" in feminine terms, so that the routinely-asked questions in conventional discourse come out conveniently "indicating" that women are morally superior, deserving of more power and money, and so forth. The main political tactic that brought about this outcome is a public equivalent of emotional manipulation.
This is just "phallocentrism" turned inside out, and made into "uterocentrism".
Don't believe the conventional wisdom they teach in school--its conventionality is evident in its near-universality among the idea-people in our culture. (Conventional wisdom isn't vulgar ignorance.)
If you think it's a good idea to question assumptions, the logical target is conventional wisdom.
Check out Warren Farrell's books. Not a deep thought in them, but a lot of data you won't find elsewhere. Women underpaid? Not if all the factors are taken into account, like hazard pay. Statistically, most women hate risky jobs, but does their under-representation in risky fields mean that men shouldn't be paid extra for risking their lives at hazardous work? Feminists apparently think so, and hence a big part of the 67 cents per male dollar myth. Rape underreported? Yes, it truly is, but feminists never mention the 40-60% of rape charges that are filed that are false. No contradiction, just a different population of women. And so on, and so on. Much of feminist mythology falls apart like over-cooked meat from the bone, when it is subjected to scrutiny. The curriculum not girl-friendly enough? That's a good one too.
Is this strength? Or is this a form of emotionally manipulative tyranny? The ability to persuade a politically correct majority of academics to swallow a load of crap is a form of strength, and, OK, I resent it.

Answer 7

What you are saying may be true in 20 years time, but isn't now.

But, yes, I do think that many men do feel threatened by the prospect, even though they often stand to gain from it (no longer having to pay for things all the time, for instance, or being able to enjoy some domestic tasks, such as cooking or childcare, or having to shoulder the burden of finacial responsibility all the time).

Answer 8

I think equality doesn't mean women should just be like men. I think women should raise their standards and be much better, more loving, have higher standards and match men who reflect these principles too - so drop the ladette culture and be positive. Men are probably relieived that women have power in their lives now (if they are sensible!)

Answer 9

In my job I get exaclty the same responces from women as I do from men.

I deal with girly men and manly women just like I get manly men and womenly women and there is no need to feel emasulated.

Answer 10

Mens have many fears.When divorce comes along she gets half.
Someimes a lot more,than normal.When married ,that gives women power to control. Many women take advantage of this.
This leaves many men including me not to get married even when I would like that very much.