happy, he should never marry. how do you communicate this to your kid?
2007-03-07 08:45:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my parents tried to talk me out of it and i ignored them and in retrospect i realized they were COMPLETELY right.
2007-03-07 08:55:32 · update #1
Sounds like you've had a bad experience & you are trying to push it onto your child. Let him make his own decisions.
2007-03-07 08:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my Gosh Don't say that. You can be perfectly happy married or not married. He needs to be the one to decide if he ever wants to be married. Evidently something has happened in your past that has put marriage in the "when hell freezes over " category but don't let your son thing so negative about it. Its your job to let him be happy and make his own decisions good or bad and support them. Just because you may have had a bad experience doesn't mean you need to let that experience influence your sons opinion on marriage. Think twice before giving him this advice. No advice is better than BAD advice. Good Luck
2007-03-07 16:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do we know if someone is truly happy? i think as a parent, you are there to guide them and sometimes catch them when they fall...that's what life is all about. i don't think you should be setting parameters for your son. of course you can be honest about your opinions and feelings towards marriage but i don't think you should advise him not to marry...you may have an unhappy marriage but that those not necessarily apply to all marriages. just my thought
2007-03-07 17:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. John,I'm going to tell you something that I don't want you to be offended, but if you love your son,you will be his best friend first before becoming as his father. If your divorce and afraid that he might end up just like what happened to you, then you must let him go. He needs to experience whats out there, us parents can be their protector, but at the same time we need for them to see whats life is offering.
Yes you don't want your son to get hurt,god forbid we all want that to our children. But no one knows what kind of life he might have if you told him not to get married, he needs to find out himself and maybe,then maybe he might have the life that he want. All that we can do is love them very deeply, give him your support and at the same time give him the advice on what he might find,nothing less,.....just accept him and love him sir!!
2007-03-07 17:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know what is going to make your son happy in his own life? That's his decision, not yours, there are plenty of happily married couples out there.
2007-03-07 16:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its wrong for you to do that. just because you are not happy with your life doesnt mean he will be.
parents are supposed to be supporting and encouraging, not telling them to run like hell!!
marriage is what you make of it. if you went into yours thinking this is not going to last and my life will be over, then thats exactaly why it is the way it is, but went into it wanting to make it work and knowing there will be hard times and everyone has them, then you would have thought differntly
2007-03-07 17:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would make you happy would not necessarily make your son happy. Know the difference between the two; your wants and need and his wants and needs.
2007-03-07 16:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that he can only be happy if he never marries? How can you presume to know what he will need for his life?
I think you are being mighty presumptuous here.
2007-03-07 16:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by cyranothe2nd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he will not find happiness in a marriage
if you didnt then that is not his fault and he should do what he wants to do not something his parents want him to do
2007-03-07 16:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to us to decide what will make someone happy. That decision is for God alone. If you want your son to be happy, instead suggest for him to follow his heart and listen to his instincts.
2007-03-07 17:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Theresa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋