When you have a baby yourself, I think you will gain greater understanding. You will look at this little one whom you love more than you ever dreamed possible, and you will think, "Wow, my mom-in-law loves ___________(insert husband's name) this much--no wonder she's thrilled about his baby." I'm sure it's annoying but try to be understanding.
2007-03-07 08:41:33
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answered by toomanycommercials 5
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I had the same thing happen. My son is now 8 months old and once in a while I still get the "our" or "my".....
It does bug me too!!!
I just let it go... it does get better as the baby gets older... my son also was the 1st grandchild. I know she does not think the baby is hers, but sometimes it's enough to drive you up a wall right?
If it gets to the point where she is interfering too much, have your husband talk to her.
One suggestion - and make sure your husband is aware of this -
when you are in the hospital after you have the baby, make sure that you get enough time to get your rest... i had a very hard time... my mother and sister in law were both there every day and sometimes more than once a day... i had a c section and was there for 4 days - my husband did not say a word... if i had to do it again, i would definately put time limits on when they could visit!!!!!!
2007-03-07 16:49:02
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answered by Rebecca K 2
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first off I am sure this is not the only thing that is making you angry when it comes to her its the end of a long list.
so stand back and try to think if your mother or best friend were to say the same sentence. She is excited and happy and will actually be alot more open to you and nicer to you, than she may have before.
before baby she was jealous at the change in her relationship with her son, now she is seeing a definite advantage to you and your marriage to her son.
she is just trying to determine her relationship with the baby, this is a good time to tell her what you expect from her as a grandmother, maybe she can watch the baby for your date nights ect.
the most important thing is to not pull away from her or this opportunity of friendship may be missed, causing alot more tension between you both and your husband.
I would walk carefully and try hard to make this out for the best
but yes it will be hard and a little annoying.
2007-03-07 16:58:37
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answered by Blessed Rain 5
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I think almost all mother-in-laws are evil.. lol.
My mother-in-law is totally the same. I married her only son and she just has to involve herself in our lives ALL the time. Our finances, my husbands job, EVERYTHING.
Since I've been pregnant she has made such rude comments about how I'm not exercising enough, and how big I'm getting. She's just inconsiderate.
The only advice I have is to just let it go. This woman will be a part of your life forever. Might as well make it as pleasant as possible. I know this can be very difficult. My mother-in-law had a really hard time getting along in the beginning. But basically, you love her son and he loves her.
Don't let her bother you. It might just be the hormones. I know I'm a little extra sensitive to my mil's comments these days. Be firm about what you want during your pregnancy but also try to involve your mother-in-law to make her feel good.
It'll work out! Good luck!
2007-03-07 17:08:58
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answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4
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Don't let it bother you. It may be a way of her finding something in common with you. Use this as a way to close the gap of an over indulgent mother-in-law. Don't worry, this will go away after time and you will reign as the hero of providing her with a grandchild which continues the family lineage.
2007-03-07 16:50:58
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answered by poet_by_nature 3
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I am going to be a grandfather 2 times one is due in 3 weeks the other june 17th There is a happiness you can't explain when you have your children as you know you love the baby more than life itself and that love is so intense when the one thing that is more important than life itself is about to experience that same kind of love it really increases in you You don't think anything can equal the love of your child till it is the love of your childs child. Try to understand in about 20 years or so you will be there too.
2007-03-07 17:02:26
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answered by twister 2
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My husband is an only child with a controlling mother, too. My sympathies!!! :) Anyway, my mother-in-law isn't that bold in her statements, but I think your mother-in-law is just excited and very happy. Grandma will treat that baby like gold, so don't worry, she knows it's your baby and just think of it this way, you'll always have a willing baby-sitter. :) Just have fun with her questions. Laugh it off, she's probably a little envious, too.
2007-03-07 16:57:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Yeah....I can see how that would be really, really irritating. I'd be really annoyed too!! Honestly tho, I'd let it go, bite your tongue, and just say back to her "yes, we are doing fine" or "our little peanut is kicking a lot today". I don't think she is trying to be possessive....just excited about the baby. Besides, this child makes her a grandmother-its a whole new job. It is her baby's baby. She's probably trying to form a bond in her own mind with the little guy (or girl).
Plus if you piss her off, you won't have a babysitter...or someone to buy that expensive crib you want. :)
I know I always say "kiss my niece for me" instead of "kiss your daughter for me". Its just my way of showing my connection to her.
2007-03-07 16:54:43
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answered by Erin 3
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I had a mother-in-law that was the same exact way it was her first grandchild also, I tried to ignore it and I just distanced myself a little more from her. After the baby was born I still kept my distance it helped
2007-03-07 16:43:12
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answered by Anonymous
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I have friends that do this, and it irritates me as well! When she asks you questions like that, just reply "MY baby is doing fine", or "MY baby has been moving alot" or whatever the case may be. I'm to the point now where I tell my friends that say that that it's not THEIR baby, it's MINE! Eventually they will get the hint and stop saying things like that, but I totally understand where you are coming from. There's no doubt in my mind she loves you and the baby, but there has to be some boundaries I think!
2007-03-07 17:35:06
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answered by FirefighterWife 3
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NO, no, no you're thinking all wrong. You should be happy your child is going to have a loving grandma. You will see. My mom is the same way as your mother in law. Whenever one of our friends had a baby she would always say and how is our baby, where'e my boy. Its just a motherly thing.
2007-03-07 16:48:47
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answered by monkeysgirl04 3
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