Well I used to be shy and sorta outgoing and reserved. And now this semester I got over myself so I've been very open and honest letting the real me out. Well it's been freaking a lot of people out and the students think I'm just desperate for attention, which I'm not, I don't care about attention and don't crave attention, I just want to socialize. I don't do anything immoral. Sure I may have a sense of humor and write jokes on people's board and post sticky notes all over the dorm floor area.
I have very few friends that accept me for who I am and they tell me that those people just not used to the change and me being so open and out there.
Should I just go back in my shell? Because my worst fears came true; people freaking out and hating me for who I am.
I'm not selfish, when someone is uncomfortable and I know it I'll stop, I just love to have fun and be around people.
Even the resident director is asking other students what's up with my behavior.
2007-03-07 08:22:18 · 8 answers · asked by wildncrazysurvivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Or should I just ignore the people who won't accept me for who I am?
2007-03-07 08:27:19 · update #1
No no no no.
Ok. As long as the sticky notes don't say "Shave head, kill cat" Or "Remember, buy more amunition" Or "Jesus told me to..."
When someone goes from being real shy to being real outgoing, it freaks people out. They are used to you being certain way and now you are acting completely different. Plus now they're in a new environment, they are exposed to a whole new group of people who make them uncomfortable. Anyone who doesn't fit their idea of normal will be considered suspect.
You know what? Be who you are. 1 of 4 things will happen. People will begin to accept you for who you are.
You will tone down how you show your outgoing nature.
You won't change how you show your outgoing nature and people continue to be uncomfortable.
Or all of the above. :)
But don't be someone you are not. If you don't want to be that shy girl anymore, don't. Don't let 'em force you into their mold.
Me, I like the people who are extremist in their uncomformaty. I used to be one of them. Of course now I'm older and I have slipped under the radar. Sometimes people confuse me for a Republican...
Sorry, rambling...
What I'm trying to say. You're only young once. Go do it while it while you still get away with it. Be that creative an odd person. People 30 years from now will still talk about you.
With love.
A~
2007-03-07 08:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may be trying too hard to get people to like you, which could interfere with you being who you really are. It is okay to have fun but I can see the mixed emotions from your friends if you went from one extreme to another. What was wrong with being a little shy, a little outgoing and a little reserved, that does not sound as though you were in a shell to me. I just think that you are a work in progress as we all are. Lighten up and don't be so hard on yourself. People understand gradual changes better then drastic changes.
2007-03-07 08:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask a question and you can email me the answer are you a cancer?....But anyways you seem like a coo person, and if people were your true friends, then they will accept you for who you are...even if you act crazy. I mean they can deal with it or leave it alone...the older you get the more you tend to dont care how people view you...this is who you are...and this is what makes you you....I think you shouldnt go back in your shell...i mean do what makes you comfortable...if you feel comfortable in your shell then go back in it...but if you want to socialize...be more outgoing then do it...and its funny also because different environments people tend to be different like where i moved to recently all the people are outgoing and talkative so i had to adapt to that atmosphere...and the people around me dont like shy people so i had to open up alot more...And in your situation people are not use to your outgoing ness...well do what makes you comfortable but i say leave the shell at home and party...but real friends would just except you
2007-03-07 08:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should tone it down a bit. You shouldn't have to change to apese them. There are going to be people who don't like you and they won't even have a reason. My point is this. So long as you are having fun and not hurting anyone, who cares what they think. You be the best person you can be and try to be helpful as much as possible and you will never have to answer for your behavior. Thank you and may GOD bless.
2007-03-07 08:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just school. Getting over being shy and reserved can be very hard to do, and it haunts some people their whole lives. Don't let it go to waste because it's freaking out some people who you'll only have to deal with for a few years. They'll adjust or they won't, you shouldn't let other people control who you are:)
2007-03-07 08:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your a ninja turtle.
no im just like you though. except your kind of a conservative loser. Go out with some of the people in the dorm and get drunk and youll shed some of these dumb inhabitions.
ps- your still in the same boat that you were in because if you havent noticed your still lonely. your venting on an online site about your social problems. GO TALK TO SOME1 ON YOUR FLOOR.
2007-03-07 08:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by xtraudinair 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would going into a shell help? You just have to let things run off your back, quit taking everything so personally. You need to stay out and gert some exposure to life. People are stupid, once you see that and discredit them, then you'll be better off :)
2007-03-07 08:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mark P. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think you should go back in ur shell, just have respect for you and other people and everything should be ok.
2007-03-07 08:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by dannys girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋