My bf of a year and i are engaged.We started dating on and off in highschool a little.We have a bit of an age gap he is 22 yrs and i am 19 yrs old.I really love and care for him but he is acting more and more like a jerk who i dont even know.The two of us attend the same school.His parents pay his tuition and give him a monthly allowance so he has no need to work.My parents pay for my tuition as well but i work for some of the year spring-summer to pay for books , ness, and to put into savings.He quit the internship he got because he wanted more money and said it was boring.Now he is up to illegal stuff not sure what i think fraud or stealing but he is making 1,000 dollars a week with no known job?I am afraid he is going to get caught but he says he never will because he is too smart for that.
2007-03-07 08:17:33 · 7 answers · asked by Maggie R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wont even tell me what he is up too but when his friends are over he asks me to leave the room?or if he gets a phone call he takes it but walks away.I want to help him but dont know how?
2007-03-07 08:20:25 · update #1
Seems to me that you really can't help him. If he's making easy money illegally, the only way he'll give it up is getting caught. I wish I had a better answer for you but this is reality. All you can do is stay on the path you're on, work hard & live honestly. Good luck sweetie, I feel for you.
2007-03-07 08:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In relationships, a person is who they are. You have to accept them the way they are or move on. Those are the only options. You can't change anyone. It doesn't work that way. Can you accept him as he is now? Can you accept the fact that if he gets caught, you can be implicated as well? Do you want to have kids with this man, and have your kids visiting their father in jail? Do you want to live your life with this man being kept in the dark and being treated for the duration of your marriage as you are being treated now? Or worse, because it might continue to progress. Do you want to build a home and a life on the income that you don't know where it came from, and could be taken away at any instant, when he gets caught? Food for thought.
2007-03-07 16:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you know the "real" him, you need to decide if he's worth it. You have dated him long enough for him to show his true self and that is exactly the person he is showing you. Your boyfriend will get caught because all criminals are stupid. The reason why they get caught is because they thought they were too smart. You need to cut him lose and find a man who has the same work ethic as you have. Thank you and good luck.
2007-03-07 16:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like you need to get out before you get caught in the middle of whatever he is doing!!!
2007-03-07 16:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how it is why drag you down with him you can do better and need better and if your parents paid for his schooling then maybe they should know what is going on point blank find someone else
2007-03-07 16:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has taken to selling drugs. Just make sure you don't end up getting dragged down with him. No drug dealer is too smart to get caught.
You really need to assess your values and compare them with his.
2007-03-07 16:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's how you help him out.
WALK AWAY!
If he ask you why, be honest with him and tell him what he will have to do for you to go back.
2007-03-07 16:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋