would u ever put ur loved ones in a carehome?

Answer 1

i personaly would never. i would like to think that i would be able to look after that loved one, just as i would hope to think my family wouldnt do that to me when i get older. They looked after you and cared for you when you were unable, and too young, so its time to repay them the favour. Being close to someone and having family near is best, than to be put aside in some strange place with strangers.

Answer 2

It’s a very hard decision to make. And if you asked me this question 6 months ago I would probably be giving you a different answer. But seeing that we just laid my father in law to rest yesterday after a long 6 months illness I would have to say… it all depends on your situation.

My father in law has 8 children… and most of the care was put on two of the 8. Some lived out of state, others a distance away so hence the ones that lived the closest got the brunt of issues to deal with. And being the wife of one of them it started to really take its toll on all of us. IF you have enough support… and by enough I mean to be able to give you the much needed breaks you need and have others come in and do the things you have to do then maybe it will work. If you are the sole supporter then I would seriously consider looking at facilities near your home. For I can tell you from experience it is extremely hard… not only physically but mentally and emotionally as well. And in time no matter how big your heart it or love for the person is… it will wear you down.

After going though what we have just gone through my husband and I both agree that if the time ever comes that we need the care his father did that we want our kids to put us somewhere we can be taken care of. We are not saying for them to put us away and never be seen or heard from. But we do not want them to have to go through what we just did. We both loved his dad, and I guess if we turned back the clock we would do it all over again for that was his wishes... he wanted to die at home…. And no matter how hard things were these past 6 months we know in our heart we gave him his last wish. And that was the only thing that kept us going through it all. But before you make the decision you have to really understand just how hard of an ordeal it is. It was the hardest 6 months we have ever lived through.

Answer 3

I actually think that the best Idea to start with is sheltered accommodation in the area in which they live so that they aren't cut off from the familiar area to them. And then go into a care home if need be and if it's impossible to care for them with home care.

It takes a very special person to care for the elderly and I think as long as you visit on a regular basis then it's the best place. You will have more energy to visit and take them out. They will still be in their own area so that people they know can visit them.

Mind you I think you would really have to check out the care homes carefully because not all of them are very nice. And also monitor their care.

Answer 4

Yes. We were faced with the decision w/Father-in-law. We both worked, he needed more care than we could manage. Also, he didn't know us most of the time. We put him in a home very near us & someone from the family went everyday to make sure he was being given good care.
Now I am faced with the same problem w/my Mom. She lives alone, will not allow anyone to come in & clean, goes for walks along the railroad tracks late @ night, cannot account for her money. Within a wk. of receiving SS, she is broke & cannot buy food. We tell her to call us when she wants to go to the store, she chooses to walk. Offers of going with us are refused. She cannot remember something told to her 3 min. ago. I am her only daughter, but we have never gotten along, she calls me names, disagrees w/everything I say, is very sarcastic to me & even though I hate the idea of putting her in a home, it may have to be done for her own safety. I would gladly take her into my home but that would never work, she can't seem to stand me, unless she needs money. She is 93 yrs. old & in good health except for her mind.

Answer 5

NO, NEVER!! I would have a home health care provider come to the house if needed before I put my mother in a nursing facility. I did an internship at one (one of the better ones in the state actually) and you should hear some of the stories the residents tell you about the treatment.

Answer 6

My Great-Aunt was placed in one not too long ago. She had lived on her own forever. Her husband died a long time ago. So long that I don't even remember him. I think she is 88 or so. But, if you can't, or there are no other family members who can't take care of a person..if they need constant care...it is the best thing for them. My grandfather is also in one. My Aunt and Uncle took care of him as long as they could. But there is only so much you can do to take care of them. Check out a few places. If you get bad feelings about it, don't do it. Unless you know that no one can really take care of that person, the way that they need.

Answer 7

Yes, I truly believe in the "cruel to be kind" theory, and if they would have a better life being cared for by experienced 24/7 staff. than by you, who may not have the time or the skills to give them a happy life, then they should be put into a home.

I must add that putting someone in a home, doesn't mean dumping them off and not seeing them again!!

Answer 8

i actually make enough money to help any elderly members with rent so they wouldnt need to go to a carehome. although, if theres no where else to go, then sure. but i would make sure that its a good care home and visit them regularly.

Answer 9

No, what ever happened to taking care of our own. No one is going to give your loved one the care they really need. It's like a kennel for people. I would break out and get my 9 kids if they ever try doing that to me. Loved one, means exactly that. Love is an action word, it can mean extra work for you. That's, what God's plan was, I'm pretty sure....Nana

Answer 10

it depends on what kind of carehome i can afford. if it isn't somewhere nice, then i wouldn't. i've heard some weird horror stories of bad carehomes