A guy I'm sorta friends with and often work with on assignments and I aren't speaking right now. He was a real jerk to me last week about this one assignment we had and it really hurt me. I haven't spoken to him since. One of my friends told him not to talk to talk to me until at least Friday, but today he turned around in class and started talking to me. I kinda ignored him, and he went to my friend and starting saying how he wished I would talk to him and a bunch of other stuff. The reason I'm not speaking to him in the first place is because I feel I need space so I don't blow up at him when I do talk to him again.
I also suspect this guy of flirting with me even though I have a boyfriend, but I'm not sure. Its more about how he hurt me.
Do you think I am handling this right? Should I just talk to him and get it over with?
2007-03-07 07:50:26 · 13 answers · asked by srgirl6391 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you should give yourself the time you need to cool down so you don't jump to conclusions and hurt him unnecessarily. Then when you can handle it, talk to him and tell him what you are feeling and tell him to explain himself. If you can't go back to being friends, then don't. But holding grudges and being angry for a long time is wasted emotions.
2007-03-07 07:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by smileforawile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely handling this situation right. If he chooses to continue to talk to you and you are still feeling angry and hurt, let him know that you don't want to talk to him right now because you need the opportunity to cool off. Let him know when you will talk to him. Once you get yourself together, sit him down and be open and honest about the situation. Don't hold anything back. Give him a chance to explain himself as well. From there on out, you decide if you can continue to be his friend or not. In the meantime, focus on what's really important in life and stay focused. I hope my advice helps you. Good luck.
2007-03-07 08:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a boyfriend and are not interested in a relationship with this person then you have to focus on the working relationship which means, you should talk to him and let him know why you are upset with him. If you cannot work it out between the two of you then get your manager involved. Bottom line is that if you cannot work together, the work will suffer for both of you,
2007-03-07 07:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by acwitte_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it depends on how he hurt you...
Physically: If he hurt you physically, then(and this isn't good, but it's just a suggestion) you should hurt him back, my parents always tell me treat ppl how you want to be treated. So hit him back, well, it's your desicion. Or if it's like rape, then tell the authorities. The other thing you could do is just ignore him for a while, and i bet he'll eventually appologize.
Emotionally: If he hurt you emotionally, then talk to your friends about it and see what they say(cuz they know you better). And after that, then you can just like tell the guy that what he did hurts you and ask him not to do it again.(just a suggestion)
2007-03-07 07:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by evon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say" look its not that i dont want to never talk to u again
i just need some space so i dont blow up at u
and be liked maybe we can meet on..........
next sunday etc for luch etc or call me then
and explain what happened and why u felt hurt
and if hes flirting with u try not to hang out with him as much
theres nothing u cna do about that part
2007-03-07 07:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda foolish to hold a grudge. Let it go and repair your friendship, reember there's just 1 him in the whole universe, don't blow your friendship over a stupid assignment!
2007-03-07 07:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by Angelus L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me a coupla days ago with this guy who was a proper flirt but was also really really funny! the thing is guys can't say sorry - there not like girls they don't hold grudges or get upset if they fall out with their mates. They just smack them. that simple - so just carry on as normal and if he does it again then tell him that he's hurt you really bad!
2007-03-07 07:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were having feelings for another guy then date them. This guy that was being mean to you do you think that he was being mean to you on purpose or that he just likes you and are taken. I think that you should just talk to him and get it over with. It wont be a problem trust me just try to calm your nerves and you wont blow up at him. Just talk to him calmly and things will be alright. Just talk to him!
2007-03-07 07:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by katrin t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are handling it great,just remeber if he keeps trying to flirt with you,just dont flirt back and try to find someone else who respects you and your boyfriend's relationship and wont try to flirt with you,and actually get your work done
2007-03-07 07:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by suckerfree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u should just tell him how u feel and if he doesn't take it good, just say u don't need him anymore.
2007-03-07 07:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by glamgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋