If willing please share your experience
2007-03-07 07:39:55 · 15 answers · asked by theanswerman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After our baby drowned in the tub when his babysitter left him alone, my husband and I experienced a profound period of grief and general marital discord (In fact, the majority of marriages who experience the death of a child end up in divorce) and I thought for sure we would end up getting divorced. However, we saw a wonderful counselor and went to marriage and grief counseling together for almost a year, and it saved our marriage.
2007-03-07 07:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counselling can work but it really comes down to the couple they both have to be willing to participate in the meetings or it will not work. It is quite common that men will shutdown in these situations because they feel like they have lost some of the power they may have over the wife. Most counselling is used to find out certain topics or feelings each person is having so unless you have both parties discussing there feelings then
the marriage is usually doomed. I myself would recommend pre-marriage counselling it lets you know just how compatible you are with one and another and could save you alot of money in marriage and divorce costs this is what my wife and I did and it let us know just how much we loved each other been married now almost 8yrs.
2007-03-07 08:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Marriage counseling can and does work. I don't usually comment on other answers but in this instance I have to. Betty W, just because YOU don't know anyone whose marriage has been saved through marriage counseling doesn't mean it doesn't work. And no, most marriage counselors do NOT recommend divorce straight away. Maybe it SEEMS that way as a lot of married couples go into counseling with no intention of fixing the marriage. That allows them to use the excuses "well we tried" or "our marriage counselor advised us that divorce was the best option." (There are so many couples that go through with this thinking that marriage counselors are full of crap until we drop the "d-word." Then all of a sudden we're geniuses..) I can assure you, divorce is ALWAYS a last resort...but if and ONLY if ALL possibly solutions have been explored, tried, and failed. And most of the time we try again.
Joe B, women recommend marriage counseling a little over half the time (57% to be exact according to about 40 or so of my colleagues) so your statement is untrue. It seems to me that you have a lot of...lets call them interesting takes on relationships in general (based on the questions and statments you make). My guess is that you're really not as ignorant as you sound. I'm thinking that you probably use this platform to ask silly questions you've always wondered about which is fine. We all need to have a little fun every once in a while (God knows I do). But if this is really what you think of women and relationships you need to look me up sometime in the Philadelphia yellow pages so we can have a serious, adult conversation to get you straightened out.
Contrary to popular belief, marriage counseling does work and can be very effective. However, BOTH husband and wife have to work at this. In this instance "meeting them halfway" couldn't be more important. Another condition has to apply is 100% honesty. If you're not honest in marrige counseling, its' not going to work...flat out. And of course the most important element is that both husband and wife aren't using this as a stepping stone or an excuse to divorce. Like I said before, couples use marriage counseling like people that want to an excuse to get gastric bypass surgery...which is the easy way out. They buy the treadmill, the pills, the diet books "and nothing seems to work!" When in truth all it takes is a little hard work, determination, and dedication...in both cases. Going into marriage counseling know that no matter what you're going to divorce your spouse is a waste of time...which is why so many people say marriage counseling is a waste of time.
If I've offended anyone, I'm not apologizing. I will not allow anyone, no matter who you are to make false generalizations about what I do for a living. Marriage counseling works and it truly makes the world a better place. Anyone who doesn't think or believe that is sadly mistaken.
2007-03-07 08:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Eddie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say how much it helped us. My wife and I were in bad shape 3 years into our marriage. We went to counselling but what really saved it was me graduating from school, getting a good job, and moving our family for a fresh start. The counselling might have helped drag us through the rotten times...
2007-03-07 07:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - my marriage counseler told me to get a lawyer! So if anything, she put my mind at ease that I was doing the right thing!
BUT - If two people love each other and BOTH REALLY want the marriage to work - yes...I truly believe it can help.
2007-03-07 07:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage counseling saved anyones marriage
2016-02-01 02:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Stacee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women always recommend counseling. I think its just an expensive way to make you feel like crap and blow up the woman's ego.
I've never done it myself but so many women on here recommend it for me.
2007-03-07 07:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it worked, How come so many marriage counselors are divorced?
2007-03-07 07:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't work for me - my X used to go there and lie all the time.
At least there was someone else in the room that I could talk to about things though...
2007-03-07 07:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. No one that I know who used it stayed together.
Most marriage counselors encourage divorce.
2007-03-07 07:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋