I have a friend for 9 years and she was in a bad situation in terms of finance, she broke up with her boyfriend and she had nowhere to go. I talked to her and I said she can stay with me. At the same time my place were on the market for sale. She found a job and she moved in the 2nd bedroom. I forgot to tell you that there is a move-in move-out fee. In the meantime, my place got sold. I offered her not to get any money from her since she was tight. She started looking for a place for herself when I was getting prepared for closing. Couple days before she moved out, I told her that there is a fee for moving out that was put by condo association. In the meantime, she wanted to buy my bed frame and matress. There was also another bed she used in the other room. I asked her to ask the movers to transfer the other bed into my room since she is buying my stuff, She made a face and started a bargain if it is okay to transfer only the matress but not the box. What do you think? A real friend?
2007-03-07 07:34:33 · 4 answers · asked by joe b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I used to leave her at work and sometimes pick her up, and if she asked me the same thing I would get it done without even asking second question. If I was able to carry the other bed on my own, I wouldn't even ask her but since I couldn't I asked for it. I am unable to communicate to her because each time she is trying to put an end to these kind of conversations. Many times I told her please do not throw olive pits in the disposal because it is getting stuck and in the meantime within 2 and a half months, we had two fire dangers because she forgot stuff on the stove.
2007-03-07 07:34:59 · update #1
it dont seem like she is a friend she is just useing you and you are falling for it dont let her use you dont do nothing for her
2007-03-07 07:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were helping her out. Now you're complaining about her not being the real friend.
You said you offered not to get any money from her since she was "tight" [she was going through financial hardship]. Right?
If the place was up for sale and she was never on the lease - you never paid a move-in fee for her. So there can't be a move-out fee on her. The move-out fee is on you. Pay the fee.
If she is buying your 'stuff', and she's doing you the favor of asking the movers to move stuff for you, then you owe her, not the other way around. She's paying movers to move stuff for her.
When will people learn that friends should not loan money, make financial bargains, exchanges, or trades, and then complain that something didn't go their way?
Movers don't move furniture from one room to another "as a favor" they move it out to the truck... they charge a fee to move extra pieces of furniture. If her movers are not moving your 'stuff' *out* at the same time... they will not move furniture for you without charging a fee.
You should be there to help when the movers are there. Or hire someone to take care of your own stuff.
2007-03-07 17:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very strange situation. why would you let someone come in to ur house and tell her to pay at the end? you should have told her that at the begining even wen she was tight, there she will know that someday she will have to pay something. And also wat kind of a friend is she? she expects you to do everything for her for no cost. I do not call that friendship. I know friends can help friends, but this is america and things aren't as easy as people think they are wen they are not the ones struggling and yet giving.
2007-03-07 15:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lila86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your friend is going through a tight situation, you should be there for her. But make sure she knows that you're there for her when she needs you, not just when it best suits her. You've done her a favour and it sounds like she's taking it for granted. Make it clear that she has to help herself as well.
2007-03-07 15:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by pulp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋