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Okay, so i've been with my fiance for almost five years. I would say our relationship has gone pretty well, but lately we've been getting into really big fights, and he always has a bad attitude. He snaps my head off for anything I say, he's just always mean.
We do have two children, and we are great parents to them, we give them lots of love, and they don't ever see us fight. I guess my concern is that he's only staying with me for the childrens sake, and I don't want to live like that, is this a stage a guy goes through? Is he feeling like he's missing out on something, is he waiting for me to break up with him? I'm confused and talking with him just leads to another fight. What do you think? If you have any negative comments about me, please don't respond.

2007-03-07 07:32:48 · 5 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

we've only been engaged for a little over a year.

2007-03-07 07:42:53 · update #1

5 answers

if i were you i would just say to him some time look if you are just here for the kids then honey you know where the door is here i will even open it for you and then give him time to think about it

2007-03-07 08:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

Well you pretty much have figured out the honeymoon is already over. If this man was going to marry you, he would have already. I agree with you, he is only with you because of the children. But I do believe he should "own" his actions, and if truly wants out, not make it your fault. He should take the responsibility of ending the relationship like he wants, instead of making your life so miserable, that you'll finally leave. I am afraid this is his plan. I know you didn't want to hear negative, but how else could you answer this question? I don't think he is feeling like he is missing out on anything, I think he is just miserable in the relationship. Let him "own" is actions, you have done nothing wrong.

2007-03-07 15:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0 0

well, I will say thats how life is. When you fall in love with someone and you expect things from him... You surely will never get that. When you are in love with a guy and there is not expectation or requirement and no tension, it will go smoothly. He is having a rough time somewhere and trying to ponder on how he should react and you are the closest thing he can take his fustration on. Don't fuss about anything now. give him some space if possible. Let him calm down from whatever is bothering him. Don't say or do much because it will cause more fights. he will later tell you what was on his mind. Don't expect it to be something good or bad. be neutral about everything you do from now on. Your best concern now are the kids, I know they mean so much to you.

2007-03-07 15:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lila86 4 · 1 0

I don't think that you should panic and automatically think that you fiance wants to break up with you. He might be under some stress or whatever. If you get into any fights, then just stay calm. Don't argue back because you'll just make the situation even worse. I think that if you approach him in the right way and ask the right questions, you might get some sort of idea about what is bothering him. Just think before you ask him.

2007-03-07 16:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by pulp 4 · 0 0

So, you have been engaged for 5 years. That's a long time. You should really talk to him about the relationship.

2007-03-07 15:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tab 4 · 0 0

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