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Question

Ok, my freinds like have this thing with making fun of me. Its kinda like bullying, but I feel like im just a big laughing stock. They get mad at me when I get mad and stuff. I dont know what to do, because I feel like I cant trust anyone enough to talk to. Sometimes they can be really cool freinds, but I wonder if its me. I mean, idt be different if we all made fun of eachother, but I'm always the outkast! and to quit the freindship is out of the question!

Answer 1

Ok I lived through this myself. My friends were the "in" people, the cool folks. I thought if I lost them my life would be over. I was defined by being part of the "accepted." They picked on me all the time but it was because they got a reaction. I would cry, get angry, offfended, etc. It was just what they wanted. They could get a reaction from me so they did. There is always 1 singled out in a group. It is the nasty way that women and girls relate to each other. The one who acts the wimpiest will get slaughtered. There are several solutions. Every time they poke fun at you, you laugh it off. Everytime they try and get you mad you count to 10 and ignore it. The best solution is to dump them. They will not expect it. I was the goat for 4 years and then one day I had enough. I never spoke to them again even though they sought me out. I found new friends that I have now had for years. I got a new identity and become more of an individual. People learned to look at me with respect because I was the "dumper" for a change. It takes guts but it will be very hard to change your behavior with a group of people that know you as well as these girls know you. They know how to get to you. Dumping them sounds hard and it is but you will survive a whole lot better without them.

Answer 2

You say they are you girls, right? CHECK THEM BITCHES.....just as simple as that!!! And if they get mad at you b/c you dont want to be the butt of their jokes anymore....F**K'em! I know you said that quitting the friendship is out of the question, but what if they dont stop? There is no way in hell I would be hanging with anyone that can ONLY make fun of me....WTF!!!! Thats some real foul sh*t, since you asked!

Answer 3

First, it's not you, it's them. They're not real friends. Real friends wouldn't make fun of you if they knew it was hurting you.

The only advice that I know to give is to drop them as friends. Otherwise, you're stuck. And if you stay friends with them and the teasing continues then you're only hurting yourself.

There are much better people in the world to be friends with. And no one deserves to be mistreated and made fun of by someone who claims to be a friend.

Answer 4

Why is not being their friend out of the question? Are you just going to let them keep hurting you? One day, they're going to say something that will really upset you, and you're going to see that ending the friendship may be best for the situation. I know you're trying to be strong and brush it off, but you can't do that forever. Everyone has their breaking point, and one day, you'll reach it. My friends used to do the same thing to me, and I just brushed it off. I didn't want to be a baby about it, so I let most of it go. One day, they said something really awful to me, and I got upset. Of course, they thought I was being a baby. After that day, I told them I didn't want to be their friend anymore. However, they may not ever say something to you that will really upset you, but they'll still say stuff. If you really and truly don't want to end the friendship, then talk to them. Say: I don't want to be a baby and I've been trying to let this go, but I hate when you guys make fun of me. I've always let it slip, but I don't want you guys to do it anymore. I don't want to stop being your friend, because I know that we have lots of fun sometimes. Just please stop making fun of me.- I hope everything works out. Good luck!

Answer 5

Don't get mad anymore, pretend it don't bother you and pick back at them. They tease you because your an easy target. You make it easy cause you get mad and it bothers you, that is their benefit. If it didn't bother you then they would be bored with it.

When they tease, ignore it like you didn't hear then say something really clever like, OMG did you see _______. and change the subject. ANd then if you want tease them back and then there will be someone new in the pack to tease.

You just got to learn to be cool

Answer 6

Wow, you are in a bind. It sounds like you just need to talk to them. Either in a group, or one at a time. Either that, I would most definitly find new friends. They are not worth it. Forget them, and only hang out with them occasionally. In the meantime, take a class, or do a hobby that you love to get your mind of of them. You might even meet someone in the class!!

Answer 7

First, you need to learn how to stand up for yourself. So what if they get mad? They don't care when they make you mad...
And why is quitting the friendship out of the question? They don't sound like the kind of friends I would want.

Answer 8

no its not u. if they are teasin u or maken fun of u and u dont like it tell them to stop. and they only do it b/c u let them. u need to be a ***** like me. dont take mess from anyonw and dont let anyone man fun of u. but jus read some jokes online and then use on them. but jus tell them how u feel and if the wont change. drop them. u will make better friends along the way.

Answer 9

you have 2 tell them how you feel r they're going 2 continue it. stand up for urself if u dont like it tell them, they'd tell you. r make an outkast of them 2 show ur feelings

Answer 10

well next time some 1 makes fun and u really take i serious then hit them i the face