Okay, me and this girl used to be bestfriends! Since we were like in third grade... We did everything together, When her father died i was there for her, and when my parents split up, and my dad turned into a terrible alcholic she was there for me. She was like the most best person in my life! Well, now we are not even talking. Every since she met this guy, and i'm the one who interduced them. My boyfriend and him were really good friends, and they lived together... I don't know why she is acting like this! We haven't spoke in almost six months, and heven't been really close in like two years... I miss her so much! Everytime i try to ask her what is wrong she never says. Well her and that guy are married now, and i figured the reason she is acting like that is because i have become really good friends with her husbands brother's wife... She is great, but she has been acting this way before me and her sis in law became really good friends.... Should i keep tryin' or leave well alone?
2007-03-07 07:17:36 · 12 answers · asked by *Red Hotts* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
leave it alone...she will realize she lost a gud friend
2007-03-07 07:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a direct aproach. Remember you were really close. Go ask her directly why she tuned you out. There is nothing worse than not knowing. It is not important who your other friends are or even that they are related to your friend. Your problem is with this girl and you have a need to put your mind at ease. Dont go behind her back to see what she is saying about you. That will really create problems. Just go and honestly tell her that you are hurt by the rejection and why did it happen?
2007-03-07 15:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well the same thing happend to me but the other way around. Me and my bestfriend ever. hung out and did everything together ya know I have known her since we were in preschool, like you and your friend. well then she starts hanging out with this goth, troublemaker friend of hers, well good thing she isn't turning into one like that. but we haven't seen each other since dec.15.2006 and I mean we talk and stuff, but I just ya know gave up in a way, but If I was you, I would just tell her, Hey I don't care if you don't want to talk to me, but I want to talk to you, If it wasn't for me then you wouldn't have meet your husband, I would just tell her how your feel, and that you all have been through too much together to stop being bestfriends now.? and that your feelings are hurt, and however else you feel.
Hope I helped you, well I tried to help ya.
Good Luck!
2007-03-07 15:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by *kennychesneygirl_07* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, my advice is to do your best and let go of the outcome. By this, I suggest letting her know in loving tones that you miss her and would love to be close friends again, but that you realize you can't force her to open up about whatever came between you, and let it go after that. Maybe she'll come around, and maybe she won't. But, you can let it go once you've done your best to mend it. Sadly, some childhood friendships are lost when people grow apart as adults.
2007-03-07 15:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her for a while she'll think about ya and i feel that she'll miss ya and try to return back again to be friends hey may be she left u because of her brother just take care girl and good luck
2007-03-07 15:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe leave it alone for a whle but make sure she knows no matter what your there for her. and no matter what you always wil be. Also when you hang out with her sister in law invite her even though she might not go.
2007-03-07 15:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by MIchell G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. Move on, friends come and go, but the ones that will help you and be there for you are true friends, not ones that will be jealous or whatever.
2007-03-07 15:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone. its obvious that she doesn't think your friendship is that important in the first place. she will realize it when that guy leaves her and she needs someone to talk too. you can find better friends. good luck!!
2007-03-07 15:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this guy a control freak maybe he dont want her to talk to you. i had a ex bf like that once and he was very mentally abusive
2007-03-07 15:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by toniasday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it. you can only do so much to try & get that friend thing back. be happy w/ your new frienship & don't dwell on what you can't change.
2007-03-07 15:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by MaMaMiLaJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋