Picky eater or just being a jerk?

Question

I cook almost every night for my husband....and it feels like he always has a problem with my food....he says it tasted really good, but maybe the meatloaf was a little too "tomatoey"....or, I'll bring him a burger or a sandwhich, and it's, "I like my buns toasted!" ....Or the meat is a little "on the dry side" A few weeks ago I learned how to make a Rueben sandwich (one of his favs) and he said it was good....but when I went to make it this time, he asked to please butter the bread on the inside, because he didn't like how last time the butter got all on his fingers....this is making me feel like I can't do anything right! Come to think of it.....I even got yelled at this morning for holding the dog's leash wrong(?) so maybe it isn't just the food? It has been like this our entire marriage.... We've been together for over 5 years.....maybe I am just being too sensative....but I kinda feel like a doormat.....?

Answer 1

Sounds like you've got other issues. The food complaints are only a symptom

Answer 2

Survey SAYS...@$$HOLE!!! He should appreciate the fact that you cook for him in the first place. If all he can do is ***** about how this is too dry or that needs more salt then let him fend for himself, and if he asks what's up tell him straight-up that you're tired of him constantly complaining about your cooking. Sure, there is a certain amount of give and take in a marriage, and I guess it isn't too much to ask to toast a hamburger bun, but it sounds like he's just finding any and every excuse to gripe about everything you do and/or how you do it. He needs to get real and understand that you won't be around forever if all he can do is find fault...come to think of it, maybe you should give him a list of grievances covering all the things he does that p!$$ YOU off.

Answer 3

Uh yeah, sounds like you're a maid not a wife. I could understand if he was paying you for the food, then he has a right to "have it his way" but this isn't BK, so he needs to get over himself. If I were cooking something for someone all I would want to hear is a "thank you" not how it could be better next time, at least not every single time I cooked, which is how it seems in your case.

Try having a talk with him about it and let him know how his constant criticism is making you feel. If he doesn't improve than next time have him make his own damn food!

Answer 4

Some guys just need to feel "in charge." Next time you're cooking dinner, invite him to help. Find things that you are ok with and let him choose between them. For example, would you like roast beef or meatloaf? Would you like potatoes, or no potatoes? Butter or no butter? Salt, pepper, both, neither? By giving him choices, you allow him to feel a part of the process and he's more likely to be happy with the results. Make him the "expert" by asking for his advice and input when you can- it'll do wonders.

Answer 5

sounds like he's a control freak...you're feeling like a doormat because, well, that's how you FEEL and you need to talk to him about it. If he isn't the type that can discuss these things without getting upset, maybe you should consider moving on to someone who would APPRECIATE a woman who cares enough to bring you a sandwich with no #@!^ butter at all :)

Answer 6

Sounds to me like he's nit-picking for no reason and needs to wake up and remember how special you are and how to appreciate the things you do. Marriage can be that way after time goes by, but it's important to never forget that "new" or "special" feeling that you had in the beginning. The one that says "wow, I've got something so special and amazing here, I'd better not do ANYTHING to screw this up!!" Unfortunately, what ususally ends up happening, what you're describing, is that one or both of you starts taking the other for granted. It's time to wake up and realize (in this case, him.) that that something special never left and that he just forgot to keep appreciating it and cherishing it.

Answer 7

No!!!!What your problem is here is that your man is spoiled!!!!!!!!!!!You should let him make his own god damn food if he's going to be that picky/acting like a jerk .Who has the right to be picky when they aren't making it or in a restauraunt ordering it.Seriously you should stop trying to make everthing he want/likes perfect cuz he is just taking advantage of you/it.I mean you try to do things spcifically just for his likings and he still picks at it making you feel like sh** this is mean.He needs to be reminded on what a great wife he has..when does he wait on u hand and foot?? does he?

Answer 8

If he is like I am, he means nothing negative by it and is just offering you ideas to make it even better. I will make comments to my wife like that, not intendiong to hurt her feeling, but I know sometimes I do. I dont know about the dogs leash, but maybe its time for a talk!

Answer 9

First you should tell him to butter his own bread if he doesn't like the way you're doing it.Second I would tell him that if the food doesn't taste the way he likes it then he needs to be home early enough to fix it himself. As far as all the other stuff he sounds like a complete a$$hole.Tell him to lighten up.

Answer 10

I've done something like this with my previous ex gfs, I took things for granted. It's not you it's him, I think he's been too spoiled as a kid. I have, but I've changed these things and now it's completely different. You should talk to him about this, he's yelling at you what's next a slap?