what would you do if you fell in love with a person that shared the same first name of someone that harmed you

Answer 1

Get over it. The name may be the same, but the person/individual isn't.

Answer 2

If you are really in love, go for it. I can understand why the names may cause you some negative and harmful thinking. As crazy as this sounds, this often helps. Write a letter to the person who harmed you. Write down everything you would say to them if you were there in person. Then, bless the person, burn the letter and see all you anger going up in smoke. Now, get on with your life. Unless it's a last name, most people develop pet names for their significant other.

Answer 3

Forgive the person that harmed you. The person that is now in your life is not the same person as the one who hurt you. You can love this person, but do not blame him/her for what happened in the past by someone else. A name is a name, not who the person is. So love the person and forgive the other.

Answer 4

They are different people, and being a mature person and in control of myself. I would do nothing; because to fall in love you have to get to know the person and be around them. From the beginning it would be obvious that the name was the same, but not the same person, therefore it is plain as egg on ones self that the same name was not important from the start. Otherwise, you would not have persued the relationship.

Answer 5

If it was a serious situation, I understand what you mean. I was stalked by a violent ex-con once. He had a first name that is not too terribly common, and it does give me the heebie jeebies on the rare occasion when I meet someone with that name now. If it's a really traumatic experience, perhaps they would let you call them by a nickname. I know it might still be creepy. But try to just keep reminding yourself that this person is NOT the same person as the one that hurt you. Take a look at them. See? Not the same person. That's what I repeat to myself anyway. Good luck.

Answer 6

You should look at this person and say; hey its not the same person so why should I bother feeling bad about it. Put yourself in that persons shoes. Imagine you got dumped by someone who said they had issues with your name because someone who hurt them had that name. Sounds stupid right? well it is. You don't love someone for their name. You love them for who they are as a person. If you cant get over it you should seriously see a shrink.

Answer 7

It's really time to move on and to not view the new person as the one that did harm. They are not the same person.

Answer 8

I would love that person for who they are as opposed to what their name is... This is the only way any of us can really care about another. We must not stick to what we see rather to what we know about the other person... if he or she was 500 lbs or 90 lbs. we ought to check general interests and similarities although we may not be physically attracted. I believe that if you choose phenotype, you are missing out on about 60% of the population... good luck finding your needle in a haystack!

Answer 9

this just goes to show you that a name does not make the person. it is the person you fell in love with not the name.

Answer 10

I was into a relationship with a person with the same name with me.. It was strange, when people called someone we both turned, but I really enjoy it because it is not the name that matters.. ;)

Answer 11

Or worse, what if you fell in love with someone that shared the same first name as you? Boy, would that be awkward!