So I'm just wondering...how do you work up the courage to talk to girls if you're shy. I mean I'm really nice and I'm fine around boys, but I can never seem to start a conversation with a girl. If I get to know them, like a few of my neighbors that are girls, I can be really nice and friendly, but I have a hard time getting to know people in school. For example, I went out with this girl that lives near me beacuse we saw eachother everyday at the bus, so it was easy to get to know her first, but I just can't seem to get to know girls at school. Sure I can talk to them, but after saying a couple things, they always just lose interest no matter how hard I try. Anyone know the best was to ask out/talk to girls if you're shy?
2007-03-07 07:11:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should just walk up to them and be like "Hey what's up?" And start a conversation. Girls like it when you compliment them, but don't be like, "Your eyes are so cooL." right away. Just say, "You have really pretty eyes." or something like that. And don't start throwing out compliments until you've had a decent conversation, probably about, 2-5 minutes? And if things feel kind of awkward, just be like, "Hey I gotta go. See ya later!" because it will just get wierder as you go on. Don't stare at girls all googly-eyed either. I know that kind of freaks me out, unless it's the guy I like of course. And I would definitly get to know a girl before you ask her out. It helps, because then you know what she likes and can take her on a date she enjoys. If she enjoys the date, she'll want another one. So, be polite. And don't freak out. Girls can sense it when you're uncomfortable. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-07 08:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use your shyness to get the girls,trust me. A girl thinks if you are shy, then you're not a trouble maker and you have real feelings as a person. Instead of trying so hard in front of them, just stay on the outside looking in and every once in awhile give her a glance or a smile, let her know you're interested without actually telling her. You can also do kind things for her,like walk her home or ask to sit with her at lunch,without expecting anything else. If she says no way, then she's not the one for you and will most likely end up as just your friend or alone.
You hang in there stud muffin, you will meet the right girl before you know it.
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2007-03-07 07:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to be more confident in yourself- if you walk up to a stranger and are sure of yourself, that will come across in your conversation. But, if you are talking to someone you don't know and everything you typed in your question is on your mind, then they will be able to see that. Body language and facial expressions clearly show when a person is struggling to find something interesting to say, or when they lack confidence. Just practice!
If you ever watch those MTV "True Life" shows where they are trying to make someone popular or prom queen or something, they always send them out to talk to people about anything and everything just to practice conversing with people. It is a skill that needs to be practiced, so go for it!
2007-03-07 07:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into shared activities with the girls.
There are more activities available as you get older (high school and college). Look around your school -- what are things that both boys and girls can do together? Are there enrichment classes? Summer camps? Choose activities that interest you that involve both boys and girls, and then you'll form friendships with both boys and girls.
Once you know them girls through an activity and you're already having fun together, your shyness will disappear.
2007-03-07 07:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Investor 2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mentally change yourself and think about how dumb it is being shy. you shouldnt care what other ppl think, its just a matter of overcoming that fear thats inside you.
hard way - work at the above, be the 1st one to do crazy stuff, live so you dont have to regret anything. plus keep in mind girls oftne times like the chill quiet guys.
easy way - drink alchohol :-P
if your 14/15 or younger forget this one, but seriously you personality changes for the better except if you get really wasted, then it probly gets worse
2007-03-07 07:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by 12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it she hasn't got ten a clue yet? Ya better do something or she'll be gone with your entire love life.
2016-03-28 22:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easiest to start a conversation when you are discussing something specific. For instance, if you are in the school camera club, you ask her opinion on a photo or something. Treating her like just another person is good if you can pull it off. Try and relax, girls are just people. Pretend she's your cousin or something.
2007-03-07 07:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by banshee_in_middleville 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
alot of guys are like that. just heres a tip, girls love to talk about themselves, and find out things about you. If that doesnt work they love talking about hobbies or other people.
2007-03-07 07:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by ecko_mr.bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of urselves as the one girls love to be with that will give u loads of confidence which will make u talk even when u think no one can
2007-03-07 07:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by classy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right girl will be the one that doesn't make you uncomfortable to approach.
2007-03-07 07:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Geico Caveman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋