i have been seeing this guy for a long time and we have been really close for even longer! our relationship is awesome but there are a lot of rumors going on right now that he's cheating. so i was talking to my bestfriend about it so now she wants me to break up with him and never talk to him again but i know he would never cheat on me. but now me and my bestfriend arent near as close as we used to be and im worried that we are growing apart and i dont wanna loose her. what should i do.?
2007-03-07 07:05:10 · 12 answers · asked by H-POO_02 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
see..i dont think that she wants to be with him or anything. i think the main reason she wants us apart is because her boyfriend was my boyfriends best friend but they got into a huge fight and they no longer talk so i think he is a big reason why she wants me to break up with my boyfriend.
2007-03-07 07:41:08 · update #1
I'm sorry but I've suffered in silence as many of my friends went through bad relationships. The reason being that i learned never to get involved when someone is in love with another person. It's not her place, it can be misinterpreted as jealousy. If she really wanted to do the right thing she'd let your figure it out for yourself, love is only really love when you've experienced it's downfall. Honestly a good friend wouldn't give up on a friend because of a guy, even if she hates him she'd get over it. Why because you never say bad things about your friends lover because she can get pissed and turn it around to be your fault when they break up or if they stay together knowing you hate her man will make her not be around you as much since she wants to spend time with him. either this friend will get over herself and come around or she won't either way do what you';re doing tell her you want her to be your friend you love her and you're not choosing this guy over her but if she was in love with someone who you didn't approve of, you'd never ruin the friendship you have over it.
2007-03-07 07:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you really think your best friend would intentionally try to break up your relationship for no good reason? That should be your first question. Sometimes a may have this cacoon around you thinking everything is perfect with your relationship and he is off somewhere else doing his own thing. Realize guys come and go but a good friendship is hard to find. Just open your eyes to the whole situation and dont take it lightly what she is saying especially when your hearing from other people as well. You need to seriously weigh out your options friendship or this guy. No one can truly answer this for you. This is something you must answer yourself. Hope I was somewhat helpful though good luck.
2007-03-07 07:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by babi_gurl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to really find out more information on weather he cheated on u or not dont listen to he say she say if you havnt got any proof then again just keep your guard up you know how men are u and your frienr need to talk you really dont want to lose your friendship over a man friends will always be there and man will come and go maybe you guys can do some investigating together and see what you guys can come up with then if nothing all yall some friends and go from there
2007-03-07 08:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by ikeysha r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend will not interfere with your relationship. Whatever decision you make, a true friend will support you. If your friend is so persistent as to you breaking up with your boyfriend, perhaps she want him or you. If you trust him and your relationship is good (and he didn't give you a reason to believe that he is cheating), go on with your lives. Sometimes people can be jealous of what you have and wish they can find someone to be happy with.
2007-03-07 07:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend. If she is a true friend, she will be happy for you and won't let that get in the way. Just say: Listen, you're my best friend. I care about you a lot, and I don't want to lose you because of my boyfriend.
I hope that helped. Good luck!
2007-03-07 07:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your best friend want you to break up with him? Do you think she is making it up? I think you should try to really think about what they are saying. Anyone is capable of cheating, even when you think they aren't. I know you want to think your man is the exception to the rule but it wouldn't hurt to look. Why does everyone think he's cheating? Who do they think he's cheating with? I doubt your friend would want to break you two up for no reason, she probably just wants to see you happy and doesn't want you to get hurt.
Either way you should explain how you're feeling to your best friend and let her know you don't want to lose her. Talk to her and let her know that she is important to you.
2007-03-07 07:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Think about it. I live by this rule...'NEVER TELL A FRIEND WHAT YOUR MAN CAN DO. FOR SHE HERSELF MAY TRY HIM TO.." I listened to a best girl friend of mine when i was in 7th grade and she told me break up with him, etc. Do you know i found out once i broke him off they became a couple. Its funny your friend is giving you break up advice and your bf is being rumored as cheating. Im not assuming they are but dont listen to your friend and ask your bf if he is cheating. But i would watch my friend definetely.
2007-03-07 07:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend and confront your guy. Rumors don't always start without reason. Ask your friend why this bothers her so much. She is your friend, but she does not control your life. If something small like this is going to cause you two to not be friends, then maybe you are not such good friends to begin with!
2007-03-07 07:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by jabegall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think u should break up with ur boyfriend if u dont belieive the rumors. but i also think that it would be a good because who matters more ur best friend or the man u will probably spend the rest of ur life with. but it is ur life so u decide dont be scared to take chances of ur life.
2007-03-07 07:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by .Country Girl.♡ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's making it up b/c she doesn't want to share you or she likes this guy. Or maybe she is just too protective. Try talking to your bf about this. If you can't talk to him about it, maybe you guys wouldn't make it anyways. Best of luck in love!
2007-03-07 07:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Robin Hip Hop Hoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋